Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Historic Rosemont Manor
My fiance & I are both 23 & will be 24 when we getting married, but we have baby faces. Since he proposed in January, I’ve noticed a few people saying, “wow, you’re so young to be getting married!” I disagree – I think 24 is plenty old enough to get married. We both have steady jobs & we’re about to move in together. It’s almost upsetting as many of the people saying this got married when they were younger than we are now.
Do any other bees get the “wow, you’re so young!” from others & how do you handle it?
Post # 3
We’re younger than you two, I’ll have just turned 21 and if will be 21 almost 22. We’ve only had this once and was from someone we don’t know so we just brushed it off. We already live together, have jobs. We’re not hurting anyone in doing so. We love each other and have a map of our future, so what does it matter what anyone else thinks?
Post # 4
FH and I are 21 and 20, we will be 22 and 21 when we get married. I actually haven’t gotten anyone I can remember telling me that we’re too young. Sometimes I can see it by the looks on their faces, but they don’t say it.
Post # 5
Lol I’m 26 and people always think I’m 17, so yes! And my fiance looks really young too. He worries that no-one takes him seriously at work 🙂
Just imagine how envious everyone will be ten and twenty yrs from now when you still look amazingly youthful 🙂
Post # 6
My landlady and her husband stopped by this evening to fix my toilet, and she just could not get over how ‘young’ I am to be married! I am 23 and my husband is 24. I understand that we are younger than the average married couple, but I certainly do not think we are shockingly young! And yes, I do have a baby face which probably makes me seem much younger than I am.
Post # 7
I didn’t get that from anyone except the chick who did my nails the day of the wedding. I was 24, Darling Husband was 29…. I don’t get it. Should I have waited until I was 30? 😛
Post # 8
I’ve only gotten a handful of comments, most recently a newly separated friend told me I was too young to be ruining my life. Other than that? Nothing really out of the way. I’m not considered a young bride where I live though, I’m actually at the average age for marriage (I’ll be a month shy of 24 and FH will be 24 when we get married.)
Post # 9
I’m 21 and my fiance’s 22. We’ll both be 22 on our wedding day. He has a steady job and I’m graduating college so I am brushing the naysayers off. They all seem to think I need to “have fun” first. I have had fun! I’ve never been the partying type and I don’t sleep around.. I love my fiance and to me, being with him IS my having fun. Plus we’ve been together 4 years.. clearly we like each other 😉 Anyways… Don’t let people bug you 🙂 There are lots of joy-haters in the world that just need to be shaken off.
Post # 10
My mom alluded to Fiance & I being very young to be getting married…we’re 24 & 25. My parents were 21 & 23 when they got married, so…yeah.
Post # 11
I’m 19 and Fiance is 21 and we get it all the time. We will be 21 and 23 when we get married though.
Post # 12
I get lots of comments since I’m 21 and Fiance is 23. We’ll be 23 and 25 when we get married, and that’s still pretty young to a lot of people, but to put it another way: Fiance will have been graduated from grad school for a year and been a homeowner for almost 3 years. I’ll be in my last semester of grad school. We’ll also have been dating for 3 years, engaged for one and a half, and living together for more than 2. If that doesn’t demonstrate our maturity, I don’t know what does!
And ultimately, it doesn’t matter what strangers or acquaintances think. Our friends and family who know us and know our relationship support us 100%.
Post # 13
@MrsS_to_be: I think you are both a great age! Honestly I don’t think it is too young. If you are ready then you are ready. We will both be 22 (he will be 6 days shy of 23) and his parents are over the moon. My parents love my partner but don’t want me to move out of home lol! But it’s the time for us. We will have been together for more than 4 years and we have settled into our careers.
Post # 14
Unsolicited comments are never OK, but I think they are (hopefully) coming from a place of concern.
TBH, I thought I was old enough at 24 too..and then I ended up divorced 4 years lafter. It won’t happen to every young bride, but if people have been through it they’re more likely to speak up.
Post # 15
I was 21, he was 22. Never got a comment in real life, but tons on Weddingbee 😉 Just brush em all off! You and ONLY you know what’s right for your situation.
Post # 16
Fiance and I will be 21 and 20…
I’ve been told the earlier I marry him the faster I’ll hate him.
People have asked if I’m finishing college before offering congratulations.
When asked how long we’re planning on being engaged, and I say 15 months, they seem to be relieved that either: A) I’m not preggers. or B) “There’s plenty of time for it to fall apart.” (seriously. direct quote.)
I’ve also been directly asked by someone with a snurled lip if I was sure I wanted to marry a SOLDIER??
People and their opinions. Ha. Hahahaha. They have no idea. Shake em off, girl.