Post # 1
I’ve scoured the web and the Bee and got some bits and pieces of info, but almost everything is vows… I need the order and ‘labels’ of each part and help with the whole shebang.
FIs friend is our officiant and we need to write the entire ceremony out. I’ve found a gazillion vows links and posts but I need everything.
We plan on including a celtic handfasting, a few readings including some Irish blessings that aren’t overly religious sounding and rings/engagement ring…. but I can’t find anything to help me with the rest of it!
Any help out there?
Post # 3
I know what you mean. We wrote our whole ceremony and it was a total bitch. As it stands right now our ceremony will last about 5 minutes. I think the processional may take longer, lol.
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: It’s kinda crazy how hard it is to find what I’m looking for! I get SO annoyed when I have the whole world wide web at my fingers and come up empty handed!
Side note… we totally need to do a meet up!
Post # 5
We wrote ours as well and it was a total PITA, but I am SO thrilled with the way it came out. Took hard work and a lot of research (to figure out all the ‘legal’ things you actually have to say) but it was well worth it. Here’s our order of events for our outdoor ceremony – hope this helps!
Declaration of Intent
Exchange Of Rings
Declaration of Marriage/Pronouncement
Post # 6
@MrsMaine: Thanks! This is great. I know it’s a total PITA, but I don’t have a choice 🙂 I’m glad it will truly be ‘ours’ but man… wish I had some more time and resources for it!
Post # 7
Here is the order of the ceremony we did…
Acknowledgement of Family and Friends
Remembrances and Acknowledgments
Group Declaration of Support
Marriage Statement of Intent/Consent
ETA: I know it seems like a lot but our ceremony was 15 minutes tops including processional
Post # 8
Not to threadjack, but does the sand ceremony go before or after the vows? Right now we’re doing
Officiant will speak
Post # 9
@LGenz: The way ours is worded, we wanted it to go beforehand. It made more sense for our ceremony that way, and I also didn’t want a break between vows, rings, and our pronouncement. Traditionally it is done the way you have it, but I am not really traditional!
Post # 10
@UpstateCait: lol, sounds like the one our officient is doing. Of course, I also told him if it was longer than 15 minutes, my FI’s sword would be coming out… and be used. 😉 Of course, we also are gonna have lots of people with kids and several with babies.
Sorry I’m no help. 🙁 Good luck on getting it written!!!!!
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I am also in the process of trying to write our entire ceremony. The best resource I’ve found so far is a book called :
The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson.
It has all kinds of suggested texts for every part of the wedding ceremony. If you’re cheap like me and don’t want to buy the book, just go into a Barnes and Noble with a pad of paper and pen, snuggle up with a coffee, and start writing down some of your favorite parts from the book! Good luck!
Post # 13
I wrote my entire thing too…like a few months ago! 🙂 I just did a ton of googling. I’m really happy with it though! Here’s basically what mine looks like:
Pre-ceremony: Groomsmen act as ushers
Prelude: Moms light unity candles. Groomsmen line up at front, reverse height order.
Processional: Each BM walks down aisle by herself, meets up with groomsman who helps walk her up the stairs into the gazebo and they line up inside. Flower girl walks. Ringbearer pulls baby down aisle in wagon. Bride and father walk and meet with groom and officiant at bottom of stair.
Presentation of the Bride: Who offers their blessing for the union of ___ and ___? (Dad gives blessing and sits)
Officiant’s welcome: It is one of life’s greatest miracles when two people love each other so much, they are willing to commit their lives together as one in spirit. The ability to love is a miraculous gift, and a wedding is a celebration of that gift. Today, we have been invited to share and to rejoice with ___and __, and to vow our unconditional love and support to them as they begin their journey as husband and wife.
and ____ would like to recognize their family members and to thank them for their love, support and devotion, as they grew from adolescence and into the two beautiful individuals who stand here before us today. At this time, we also honor those people who are not able to be with us in person today, but are here in spirit. let us remember them with a moment of silent reflection. (Pause.) We are a part of everyone who has ever loved us; __ and ___ thank their families for teaching them values, and showing them the beauty and joy of loving another person. ___ and ___ would like to offer thanks to each of their parents for their love and support.
We will now have a reading from author Frederick Buechner from the ABC’s of Faith, read by the groom’s sister-in-law, ___: