Post # 1
My SO and I decided to write our own vows but say them to each other in private after we have our ceremony, where our friends and family will be.
Last night my mom asked me if we were doing the traditional vows or if we were writing our own. I told her what we were doing and she was a bit upset that we weren’t sharing our vows with everyone. I tried to explain to her that to me, telling my SO how much I love him, in my own words, is so personal and it’s something that should only happen between us, and not infront of everyone. She doesn’t get it though. I’m sure she’ll get over it, but it was still a little annoying.
Anyone else doing what my SO and I are doing?
Post # 3
Aww I think that sounds great! See, I’m torn. I want to write our own vows, but I feel like I would be waay too nervous to say them in front of everyone. I’m not typically comfortable being the center of attention like that. I think I might do a spin on your way.. just exchange letters or something. I’m not sure!
Post # 4
That’s why we’re doing it this way. If we did our written vows infront of everyone I would turn into a huge crying mess and wouldn’t be able to get the words out. and do I really want people to remember that? not really. I think only my SO should see me like that.
Post # 5
my FI and i are writing our own vows….but only saying part of it in the ceremony and a longer version of it to ourselves. this way, it also doesn’t bore anyone in the audience for something so long and some probably won’t understand because they are not IN our relationship. i totally agree with you and you can do whatever you want with YOUR vows.