I was chatting today to my future sister in law about writing vows. I know there is a fairly even split here as to couples who write their own and those who opt for traditional vows.
My Brother and FSIL have decided to write their own separately but she was saying that she didn’t even really know where to start and was a little worried not being particularly poetic about having solid vows.
I am of the opinion that any vows rooted in truth written or spoken from the heart would be beautiful. In our brainstorming just for fun I decided to write my own vows (to someone I have never met mind you) and found it surprisingly hard. In reading back the promises I had written in one way it sounded to me like I had written a business contact compared to some bee’s beautiful statements but if I flourished them they sounded to me a little pompous.
I know that people are inspired by all sorts in writing their vows but did anyone else find it surprisingly hard to write realistic yet still romantic vows. You hear of completely sappy ( for want of a better term) vows and hilarious ones but what about simply realistic ones? What basic promises will you or did you make?
I would love to hear any/ all opinions.
I’ll add the the vows I drafted below and will be interested to see what you bees think! Are they too boring? Too floral? How would you change them? Apologies in advance for the horrific grammar.
Cheers bees x
You are everything I never dared imagine for myself, everything I love about the world, you are everything I aspire to be.
With these words and all the words of my heart, I BRIDE choose you GROOM to be my husband, my partner, my family. My everything.
Through all our years, in all that life may bring us
I promise to never forget the inspiration of this moment. To always love you, only you for who you are. You are an irreversible part of who I am. All that I am I give to you today. All that I have- its yours .
I promise to respect your individuality and to appreciate our differences so to participate in our marriage as your equal, as a champion for your dreams.
I promise to always make time for us; to listen deeply, to clarify my expectations, to accept the inevitability of change with the patience that it demands.
I promise to celebrate the small victories, to dance too often, to make laughter an integral part of our family and to sometimes surprise ourselves with unexpected adventure.
Wherever you go I will go. Wherever you stay, I promise I will be there to hold your hand and kiss you goodbye every morning. You will always be the best part of my day.
GROOM, You are more of an amazement to me each day I rediscover you. I cannot wait to share the rest of my days growing old with you rediscovering us.
I Love You.
Thank you for marrying me.