Post # 1
I am beyond mortified. I cannot believe this has happened to me.
We sent out our invitations last month – the invitations I spent four hours designing online and spent an arm and leg on. I proof-read, had fiance proof-read, double/triple/quadruple checked them. I thought they were perfect. I would have bet my life on it. Well, they’re not.
My fiance’s mom called tonight to tell us that the address for our ceremony site is incorrect. (We have 633 ____ Road listed and it’s actually 233 ____ Road). We have quite a few out-of-town guests and the site we’re getting married at is not very well known even to those who live in-town.
So the question is:
What do we do from here? Do I send out a card with the correct address to each guest apologizing/explaining there was a “printing error”? I cannot even fathom calling 200 people…. too time-consuming, plus I’m humiliated enough and would rather stay vague about what actually happened (aka: it was my error and don’t want to be questioned further about it).
We DO have a wedding website which was included along with the invite with all of the correct information, addresses, maps/directions, but I doubt every guest will visit our website.
Side note: what may be the worst of this is the fact that my fiance told his mom “oh boy, Ali f–ked up”. I already feel like i’m planning 95% of this wedding and I’m completely stressed-out so it really hurt and infuriated me! Although he’s apologized profusely, I’m still SO angry he said that (to his mother who is OCD and makes me feel like I don’t do anything right to begin with.) UGH!
Any advice as to what the proper etiquitte would be in this situation would be very much appeciated! Thank you!
Post # 3
If you can afford it, I would send out cards with the correct address to all the guests.
Post # 5
@alicroo86: Just send out a card with the correct information, and don’t be mortified – mistakes happen! Most wedding planning falls on future brides would are NOT professional event planners.
If you find the cost of sending a correction notice to each guest is too expensive, you can get very cute business cards with the correct info printed and mailed out instead.
Post # 6
@alicroo86: Definitely send a correction card. Vistaprint usually runs great sales and deals and most of the time the envelopes are free.
We all say things that we’d like to immediately shove back in our own mouths. I’m sure what your FI said is one of those things.
A friend of mine likes to remind me: Something will go wrong. You don’t know what it is, but the way that you handle it will be what people remember.
Post # 7
I think sending out a simple correction card would be fine. It’s arriving the same way the original invitation arrived, so hopefully people will receive it, keep it and remember it when it’s time to go to the wedding. You could also send out a mass e-mail for those who have e-mail, and then call the people who don’t.
Don’t feel bad, it’s just one number off. And, really, that’s rich of fiancée to say you f’d up when he didn’t notice either. You had the good sense to have someone check the mock up of the invitation more than once, and he did a poor job — he f’d up too.
Post # 8
I had a venue change after I sent out the invitations (The park started major construction through our marriage site so we had to change venue unless we wanted to get married on a backhoe) so I just printed out (On regular pages of paper) the new venue address and that was that. Mailed them out to everyone and it was no big deal.
Post # 9
Thanks so much, ladies! I’ll look into getting something printed or just do it myself. I can’t think about it anymore because I’m in no shape to make decisions now (my bach party was last night so I’m still not really feeling well, haha), but I’m so glad to know that the correction cards are a good idea. 🙂