Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
Is it bad/wrong that I’m not overly upset about my family/friends not seeing us get married? We’ve decided to elope and I’m really excited for it to just be us two and also looking forward to a stress-free wedding not having to think too much about anyone else on that day. We’re having a big reception when we get back with around 150 family and friends which I’m really excited for too but I have a feeling some people think it’s a little sad to have a private wedding??
Post # 3
@UKbee: Nothing wrong with that. We’re doing the same thing, and it’s stressful enough without having to worry about everyone else. I’m not sure how I’d cope if it was a “proper” wedding.
Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. What could be more special than just the two of your promising to spend the rest of your lives together?
Post # 4
It’s not wrong at all. In fact, despite the fact we’re only have 16 guests invited to ours I still envy you! Neither of us wanted anyone there at all but apparently due to the fact we’re not giving her any grandkids EVER, my FMIL would “hate me forever” if she didn’t get to see her only son get married. His words, not hers.
Still keeping it very casual and stress-free though. Literally getting married and then going home and I can relate to what you say about people seeing it as a little sad because the looks I get when I say I’m not having a reception or so much as going out for a meal to celebrate after is astounding. It’s as if they think I don’t take my wedding seriously.
So good on you for going with what you actually want. You have no reason to feel bad about it, and like you say you’re having a reception so it’s not like they’re missing out completely.
Post # 5
We eloped. I am so glad we got to share the memories between the two of us. There was no stress that day. Just the two of us being excited to start our adventure together! I wish we could do it again.
Post # 6
There’s nothing wrong with being happy that you’re having a private ceremony. You’re doing what is best for you and your fiancée.
Not everyone likes private ceremonies, and that’s ok. That means they shouldn’t have one when they get married, or they already had the kind of wedding they wanted.
You’re having the kind of wedding you want. That’s something to be very happy about.
Post # 7
@UKbee: Nope, it’s ok!
We had a destination wedding, but secretly got married just before we left for Mexico. We had the officiant provide witnesses. The officiant and witnesses were all super nice ladies, and we had just an awesome emotional mini service wearing jeans. I felt sooo happy, it is honestly one of my very favourite memories of DH and I. Then we got ice cream cones and smiled lots… And went home to spend the rest of the evening alone. It was an amazing secret wedding. 😀
None of our family saw our actual legal ceremony… But I found I don’t mind one bit. I would have been perfectly happy to have just that, without the wedding we had afterwards.
So, it’s not sad, not at all! It’s very happy. Congratulations!
Post # 8
We’re having a private ceremony and we’re super excited about it. Congratulations! 🙂
Post # 9
Good for you! We are 13 days away from our big to-do, and I completely wish it was just us!
Post # 10
@UKbee: That’s really what I wanted to do my my mom was PISSED and flipped out on me. We’re doing a destination wedding in Tulum, Mexico with about 15 guests. Next best thing I suppose!
Post # 11
No way! You’re definitely getting the best of both worlds!
Post # 12
@Fizzy8: LOVE this! We’re doing a small destination wedding in Mexico but I would love the courthouse wedding to be just us. I’m going to suggest that!
Post # 13
Not at all! Sometimes, my FI and I look at each other and wonder why we didn’t run away and elope. Or elope on one of the trips we’ve taken. For the most part, it hasn’t been too bad of an experience planning our wedding. But there are those days when one (or both) of our mothers are just being insane that makes it difficult.
As long as you’re happy, then I wouldn’t even worry! There’s always going to be someone who has an opinion that differs from yours – but it’s YOUR wedding, so I wouldn’t even stress about those people!
Post # 14
@UKbee: Not wrong at all! You will enjoy the no stress day – we did!
Post # 15
No way – we’re taking four people, but no family. and we’re SO excited!
Post # 16
That’s a wonderful way to celebrate your marriage. It’s not wrong at all!