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posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Wrong to register for giftcards?
    Times have changed and it's totally okay (even for the TJ Maxx, etc. ones) : (9 votes)
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    Never okay : (6 votes)
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    OKAY only if there's an option with your other registry items, not on it's own (like TJ Maxx, etc.) : (15 votes)
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    Habibah14    October 24, 2010   Fairfield County, Connecticut

    I'm sure this has been on here before but can't seem to find it. I know Macy's and Target have the option to add giftcards on the bottom, no value just the option to give a gift card... how does this sit with people in terms of etiquette?

    ALSO We LOVE TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Homegoods... I know we can't register there but is there any tackful way to ask for giftcards to there? Like on our wedding website in the registry sections? Maybe list Macy's, Target, and them something like "Homegoods, TJ Maxx & Marshalls-- if only we could register here... but they do have giftcards :)"

    I don't know if I feel comfortable putting that on there 'cause it seems so rude but part of me feels like people want to know what we want and we just bought a condo and could use the giftcards for stuff from these awesome places, thoughts? suggestions?

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    its your registry do what you want! :) they dont have to get you the gift card...

     
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    thefiancemeenah    October 10, 2010  

    i think asking for gift cards equates asking for cash to a lot of people, which is tacky

    personally, i wouldnt care if i saw a gf on your registry, but i know a lot of people would give it the sideeye

    you might say would "have loved to register for tjm since its my favorite store" and hope they get the point.

     

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Alot of people consider gift cards to be the equivalent of cash, and it is rude to ask or register for cash in any form.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I don't see the point of a registry with just gift cards.  You could have people spread the word that you like those stores and gift cards would be a great gift for you but there will probably be some people who want to buy presents.

     
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    future mrs kirsch    July 24, 2010   Ferndale, MI

    We had a similar problem and we decided to have the BM's mention that we also could use some Ikea gift cards since they don't have a registry (if people asked about our registry). I figure we will get duplicates and some cash at the wedding so we can just buy stuff with that.

    I don't think it would be tacky to mention that you would have liked to register at t.j.maxx, homegoods etc. but they didn't have a registry :( I think some people will get the hint.

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I think the only tactful way to ask for gift cards to non-registry stores would be through word of mouth - otherwise I do think it is like asking for money.

    I think its a different story if you include gift cards on your registry at the store you are registered at. I added gift cards to both my BB&B and Pottery Barn registries. Personally, I usually buy an actual item off registries when I purchase gifts, but my Mom and some other older people I know like to buy gift cards so that the couple can use them to buy the things they really wanted most off their registry.

     
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    lergx6    May 21, 2011  

    I feel like asking for gift cards to places that don't offer registries would be more acceptable than to places that do.  So...I would think asking for gift cards from TJMaxx et al. would be ok, but asking for gift cards to Macy's et al. would be less ok since if you want something there, you can register for it.

    I wouldn't have a problem getting a gift card for someone if they asked for it, but as others have said, some people think it's rude.  I think MissAB had a good idea. Ask your close friends/relatives to spread the word for you, just don't list it on your website and whatnot.

     
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    MmeSilverBullet    April 2013   NE Wisconsin

    I think it's ok as long as you have other options on your GR.

     
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    summerlove22    July 14, 2012  

    I have a wedding to go to this summer and I looked at the registry and the only thing they had registered for was gift cards, and they registered for $200 gift cards only. I was pretty shocked so see that and honestly thought it was a little greedy and rude. If you add gift cards on to an existing registry as an extra option then I don't see a problem with that, but it gets harder when you register for a specific amount and that's the only thing you register for.

    I don't mind giving people gift cards as long as I don't feel like I'm being told that I have to. :)

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    We added a myregistry.com registry onto our website. It really hasn't been touched, but we put things like books, Etsy items, and things from our favorite local stores to invite people to go beyond towels and dishes.

    In retrospect, I don't know if I'd do myregistry.com again (mainly because it's kind of a complex system for guests to use) but I did it because I know that I'd enjoy getting some of my friends some cool artwork off of Etsy or an IKEA gift card more than linens from BB&B. We did list gift cards to different stores whose inventory changes all the time or doesn't offer wedding registries (i.e. IKEA).

     

     
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    Habibah14    October 24, 2010   Fairfield County, Connecticut

    Thank you to those who made helpful comments and actually read my original post. haha Sorry if there was a misunderstanding about what I was asking, I wasn't suggesting ONLY registering for giftcards, was just asking in general about having them on there with the other registry items.

    As I mentioned, I felt uncomfortable with the idea of registering for gift cards as I too would think it would be like asking for money. Guess it's just a personal preference at the end of the day. I think I'll just go for word of mouth on the non-registry stores. Thanks so much for the feedback!

     
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    Joshs Girl    July 16, 2010  

    I totally agree with farmersdaughter.

     
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    Miss Bella    October 15, 2011   Blue Bell, PA

    I don't get what the big deal is about asking for gift card?!  Do they only let you register for one amount on all the gift cards..like people could only buy say a $200 gift card? 

     

    The only way I really see it being a problem is if you set the price on the gift card.  People should get to decide how much they want to give for a wedding

     

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