@MrsRichard: Yes, the idea had occurred to me. She might not show. But then… at the end of the day I suppose that was always going to be a risk. I suppose it is possible that she might have had a sudden flash of insight, as she sometimes does. She can do this thing where she suddenly realises exactly what she puts people through, and then rather than change her ways, she just gets really depressed and withdraws instead. Maybe that’s what’s happening here?
@SharlaK: Thanks! I’m quite forgiving when it comes to this sort of thing (obviously)… just a bit cross at the moment. I suppose that the simplest thing would be to take in the dress, which I can do myself, and wear it myself. It’s a nice dress, and I’d definitely wear it! The problem is that her only suitable replacements are a lot slimmer, and I don’t think the style would hold up to an alteration of two dress sizes or more. If I were to wear it, there would only be about a dress size and a half’s difference (for some reason, I seem to have a lot of very slim friends… never thought about it before now).
I suppose I could get a different dress, but it’s an extremely difficult colour to match correctly, and all the others are wearing identical dresses… so I suppose I would just not replace her and have one fewer BM. Meh. Not the end of the world.
The phone thing is because she has money problems, and was forever getting disconnected. It’s not a control thing… it’s a money management thing (you can probably see a common theme beginning to emerge here).
Still searching, photography wise… I might also ask some of my other friends… I’m not a perfectionist when it comes to photos, so a gifted amateur sounds just fine to me. My real splurge is the food and the booze, because I feel that the most important thing is toshow the proper hospitality… for me, a big part of that involves serving lovely food and drink.
@eocenia: That’s a very good idea, photography wise. Thanks! Thinking of it, I suspect that my work also has cameras which I can borrow, which might help. And yeah… FILs. They’re nice people, but sometimes…. yeah… you know what I mean, right?
@Diana R.: You’ve partially hit the nail on the head here. I don’t think she’s jealous, but I do think she’s not happy with the way her life has turned out, and that’s making her snappy, distant and upset. I suspect it’s more “depression” than “spite” though.
… and now I feel much calmer. Amazing how much better you feel after ranting to a bunch of anonymous strangers on the internet!