Post # 1
So, 3 of my bridesmaids have children, one is 7 months, one is 11 months, one is 17 months. Our wedding is a sort-of destination wedding, 3 hours drive and the guests would have to stay at the hotel/another hotel. I invited the mother, father, and siblings of one of the bridesmaids, because they are very good friends of the family. Her husband is not here, and they will help her greatly in taking care of her baby during the wedding. So in trying to be fair, I also invited the mother-in-law of the other bridesmaid so that she could have some help with her baby. Although her husband is already coming.(I know the mother-in-law, but would not have invited her if not for my bridesmaid.) And I also invited the Future Mother-In-Law of the third bridesmaid, (her fiance is also coming) although I’ve only met her twice, bridesmaid asked me to cuz she needed help, and I gladly invited her, since I did invite the other 2. I didn’t mind invited 1 more person for each bridesmaid, since they have done a lot to help me with the wedding.
But now….2 of them have asked me to invite someone else too!!!! The third one said her fiance wanted to bring a friend cuz he won’t know anyone else. I was like “Well I already invited his mother!!!” PLUS he’ll be with u except for the 20 minute ceremony and to eat dinner. AND one of his cousins is invited (coincidentally). I said I’m sorry but the venue is already at the maximum amount.
Then the first bridesmaid who I invited her whole family, says..”I need another invitation”….I was like “well, sorry there’s no more”. I don’t even know who she wanted it for……and I don’t wanna know!!!!
What the hell is wrong with ppl???? I would NEVER do these things!!!! I am pissed!!!!!
Post # 3
That does stink. You go out of the way to be nice, and they take it as open season to ask for anything. So sorry.
Post # 4
Sorry you’re going through this. People just don’t have tact and sometimes common sense!
Post # 5
Ya that’s weird. You were absolutely right to give the response that you did though. I think people don’t realize that you have to PAY for everyone’s meals or something. And ya, bridesmaids have a lot to do, but husbands are able to survive on their own for an hour or two. Heaven forbid anyone should be forced to talk to someone they don’t know at their dinner table!
Post # 6
I’m sorry, what?! Your wedding is not a public event! It’s not as though it’s a concert that you bought a bunch of tickets to and you can now hand them out to friend’s friends. I’m sorry, I just can’t even begin to imagine asking something like that. Ridiculous! I would be so livid if I were you.
Post # 7
Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t get the memo that weddings are no longer a community wide event. They are family oriented, private affairs. I guess the bright side is at least they asked as opposed to assuming that they could take it upon themselves to ‘invite’ these additional people without asking. I agree though, people can be thoughtless and down right rude when it comes to weddings.
Post # 8
Oh, man. That’s no fun. It seems like this happens a lot- like people don’t understand that a wedding is different than other kinds of social gatherings. It often looks like a lot of people don’t really get how expensive weddings are, and when you say you can’t have more people, you really can’t. That’s just so rude of people to invite others!!
Post # 9
Seriously these type of situations require a good sense of humor!! I mean, what else can you do (besides pass them an etiquette book)?
Post # 11
judging by your post, I’d say it is.
Post # 12
Yes! That is annoying! I have several girlfriends who keep whining about their boyfriends/husbands not knowing anyone and my thought is “Oh, I’m sorry, do you somehow think this event is about THEM? Or, for that matter, you? Yeah, cause it’s not… It’s about me and my FH and if that should change at anypoint, I’ll be sure to let you know!!”
**Ok, that sounds terribly rude, lol, I have been a bit stressed apparently today. Whew! Feels better to vent.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
People are nuts. I don’t know how else to say it.