Post # 1
FI and I are currently battling a long distance relationship until September. He works out of state about 6 months a year, so we are balancing planning while not actually together.
Last year when we got engaged, I mentioned that I thought it would be cool to write our own vows. He agreed, which sort of surprised me, since he is pretty shy.
Last night I mentioned something to him about the vows. He said he probably wouldn’t write them until the night before (WTF?) I told him that he should probably get started a little earlier, since they are important. He still wasn’t understanding. He said he would probably write them before bed the night before the wedding, since I would be the only one who “saw” them.
Ummm . . .apparently he thought our vows were just something we wrote to each other, to give before the wedding. He was confusing them with me mentioning that I wanted to write him a letter to read the day of the wedding while they were getting ready.
He then informed me there was no way he was writing his own vows. LOL.
Post # 3
Haha! That totally sounds like something my FH would do! Ya’ll could still write your own vows but just read them in private to each other but then use the traditional standard vows at the ceremony. It might also be kind of cute or fun if your planning on going on a honeymoon to read them to each other somewhere special. Just a thought!
Side note: don’t ya just love when boys surprise you with their thoughts!
Post # 4
That is a good idea! I laughed so hard when he told me that. The whole past year we had talked about how cool is would be to write our own vows. I guess I should have elaborated!
Post # 5
Ahhh typical male; doesn’t know wedding word definitions I guess. Atleast you figured out this misunderstanding now and not the day before haha.
Post # 6
That is too funny. As a PP pointed out, at least you figured this out ahead of time!
Post # 7
Such a guy thing! And I agree good thing you found that out now!
I asked FH if he was going to write his, it was the only time I have ever gotten a yes or no answer out of him! But I had already known the answer would be a big fat no 🙂
Post # 8
Haha that’s great. Isn’t it funny to see what FI’s end up caring about or actually having an opinion about?
Post # 9
@Linz1231: not as good of a story, but last year when FI and i attended a wedding (2 months before we were engaged) the couple wrote their own vows and we were both really touched by it.
FI!!! mentioned that he’d like to do that when he got married.
we even talked about writing our own vows when we first got engaged… now we are two months out… and i told him id written my vows last week (first draft anyway :P) and his response is “uhh i dont know if im going to be able to do my own vows
DAHHH boys!… MEN! LOL 🙂