Post # 1
So for some unkown reason my mother is DEADset of showing off plenty of boobage and leg on my wedding day… seriously–her words exactly. WHY WHY WHY?!?! COuld it be because my dad is there with his new wife, along with the rest of my family on his side….and my mom feels she needs to show of her 44 year old body that she’s kept in such good shape while her husband escorts her down the aisle…oh yea did I mention she refuses to have the ushers escort her. I mean really? I am not too big on tradition, but before you start handing down commands why don’t you put up or shut up? I have been paying for this wedding on my own… not even the groom can help because he covers our COL.
This dress is similar to the one my mom wants with a tad bit more modesty!!….she tells me everytime “…I must have the back out!”
GEez since when did my wedding become the set of Moulin ROuge? I know my mom is hotter than a lot of other moms, I just wish my wedding wasn’t the stage she decided to boast it on….
I wouldn’t mind her wearing it, if it were a ball, or a beauty contest but its neither… And trust me, my mother is the most DIFFICULT person in the world to talk to… there really is no convincing her. When I say DEADSET I mean D-E-A-D-S-E-T!! If I wasn’t going to WOW the crowd in a RED Maggie Sottero gown, I would go completely bananas… its kind of sad though, cuz when she asked to see my wedding gown I made sure not to show her the red one… I am afraid she might try to out do me….
SHe has a habit of rubbing in my face how small and petite and fit she is… She often compares herself to me OUTRIGHT! Now I love my mama…but I want to smack her sometimes (God forbid!!) I am 5ft 8in and 128 (i recently gained 10lbs to look more healthy) and she loves to rub in my face how she is 5′ 4″ and 114lbs… GEEZ LOUISE! From what I hear (if not from modesty’s sake) I am pretty easy on the eyes. I just think she can’t bare the thought of passing on the torch.
She had me on the phone for 20 minutes on day telling me how gorgeous she and her hair is, and she didn’t need my stylist for the wedding day because she is so naturally beautiful… ERRRrrrr?!?! (In my Tim the Tool Man Taylor Voice)
WTH does natural beauty have to do with anything?
THIS DRESS!! THIS DRESS!! I am trying to figure out someway to get her into another gown… All the gowns I sent her, she said she didn’t like because they were too “Greek GOddess”
ok thats my vent… I really should get back to this paperwork lol
Post # 3
Oh.My.God. I don’t even know how to respond. That dress, is it a dress or a slip?
Post # 4
Wow, my mom is completely opposite so I can’t relate at all, but I am sorry you have to deal with this. It seems like you have tried to reason with her, is there anyone else you can have talk to her for you?
Post # 5
Wow! That’s a little over the top.
Post # 6
Um… that’s ridiculous. At 44 years old, you owe it to yourself and the people around you to be more modest, if only because that’s the mature, responsible thing to do. It doesn’t matter how amazing you look at that age, wearing a dress that’s intended for a teenager/young adult is just gonna look skany and desperate.
And to do it at your daughter’s wedding is just rude.
If I were you, I’d tell your mom that you don’t want her upstaging you on your big day and you would appreciate if she covered herself up in something more appropriate. If she wants to dress like that outside of your wedding that’s her perogative, but this is your event and it would be disrespectful of her to take the focus off of you and your future husband.
Post # 7
THis totally reminds me of one of those Bridezilla episodes with the mom that was trying on sexy MOB dresses while they were suppose to be there so that the daughter could find a wedding gown.
Post # 8
I am usually really laid back on what people should wear but I would NEVER let my mom wear that! No 44 year old should ever wear that!
Post # 9
In all honesty, she is going to look like a fool. People will be talking, and not about the great shape she has kept herself in. I would try to have a serious talk with her.
Post # 10
Yep. Its a little too much for a MOB, and I don’t care HOW great she looks. Can you go out with her and shop and maybe enlist the help of a stylist/consultant to help out?
Post # 11
@ItWasntMe: I wish I could shop with her, but I am in Dallas and she is in STL.
I keep trying to talk her into visiting so that maybe we can find her something… but she hates bridal store MOB dresses… She looks on PROM sites for her gowns
Post # 12
oh.my.goodness…. um…. i wouldn’t want anyone at my wedding wearing that! congrats to her for being able to pull it off, but sometimes just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you SHOULD. if she’s in great shape, she’ll rock whatever dress she wears. she doesn’t need to dress like a desperate, middle aged, divorcee. it screams, LOOK AT ME! I NEED VALIDATION! people will not be impressed by it, they will mock it. sorry. i have no advice, just sorry she is being difficult=(
Post # 13
Wow, um, that is…quite a dress.
I think its totally inappropriate for a wedding and people will be talking about her the whole night, and not in a good way.
I do know that weddings can be difficult for moms to deal with too and she may be acting out because she is afraid she is getting old and her “baby” is getting married. Just remind her that she will look beautiful in anything she puts on, but to respect your wishes and wear something a little more conservative. You want to have a mom on your wedding day, not a pin-up.
Post # 14
@lwilliams107: Hmmm…maybe send her some links of things you like and see what she says? She can look at evening gowns, but not PROM gowns.
Post # 15
Aye, yai, yai – Your mama drama is too much. She is being ridiculous and she doesn’t seem very considerate of your feelings. If she is dead set and you know there’s no changing her mind, is there any way for you to know in your heart that she will be seen for what she is and just let go of the fight?
I know, I know, easier said than done. But if you can release her craziness to the universe and not be responsible for her decisions, you might get a little peace of mind. * hugs *
Post # 16
OMG I just had a similar conversation with my mom the other night. She’s in her early 50’s (also divorced) and kept going on and on about how she wanted to show off her boobs because they are her best asset. I was shocked at the dresses she was looking at. Best part was she kept calling herself obese (she is overweight) and then comparing herself to me and saying we were the same (she doesn’t get that just because my bra size is only one size down from her it doesn’ mean we are the same sizes elsewear). Mother’s what can you do with them or without them….gotta love the fun.