Post # 1
I got engaged a little over a month ago, and we set the date about a week ago. Ever since, whenever i bring up the subject of my wedding around anyone new, they automatically want to know all the details. Fine, what i have decided, i will tell you. Then they ask me for the date. I tell them April 19, 2014, and they get this weird look on their face and then tell me TO MY FACE, “Oh, dont even bother planning yet. You wont last that long, you will end up kicking him to the curb long before then! If you are still together in January of 2014, then start planning.” I have had ten people tell me this! What. The. Fuck. Seriously? You dont even know my last name, and yet you think you know me well enough to KNOW that im gonna give up on my relationship! We have been together almost a year and a half, been through hell and high water and thick and thin, through good times and bad times. If i was gonna leave, i would have done it already! This morning the uniform guy at work told me that! Good God, people, you dont say shit like that to someone who is newly engaged! Just totally freakin rude!
Post # 3
Wow. Do you think these were misguided jokes?
Still, terrible. Just ignore them!
Post # 5
that is horrible!! I don’t understand why people would think that! My SO and I decided we would want to be engaged 2 years at least.. I hope people don’t pull this on me too!
Post # 6
I get that look alot when I tell them that my wedding date is in September of 2014. I have to explain we put out date that far out because weddings are expensive and a lot of vendors we want to use are booked up in 2013. They get really quiet and just look at you like you’re crazy. I get so tired of it too! “Oh… 2 years away? Wow, that’s a long time to wait..”
The judgement in their voice gets sickening.
Post # 7
wow… i cant imagine saying that to anyone…. where did you find these people?
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
That is crazytown. You need a really good comeback for when people say that, just to shut them up. Something along the lines of, ‘thank you for your insight into my relationship with a man you have never met.’ If it were people close to you saying that I would pay attention, but for people who barely know you, screw them. Some people just don’t know what to say.
Post # 9
This scares me… we probably wont get married until early 2014 also.
Post # 10
OH MY GOD. I just laughed as I read that, out of disbelief at how ridiculous people are. *sigh* are these friends or just random acquaintences? well… obviously not good friends…. *hugs* its never too early to start planning 🙂
Post # 11
Are any of these people engaged? Sounds like the green eyed monster to me…
Post # 12
Nine of them are people i work with. Co workers, vendors i give weekly checks to, office cleaners, salesmen, and hands in the shop. The tenth is my dad.
Post # 13
And like i am seriously going to begin planning my wedding FOUR MONTHS before it takes place? Yeah right, ive waited 23 years and im gonna wait until four months before the date. Yeah okay.
Post # 14
Wow. That’s bizarre! We have been engaged since Christmas and our wedding is Februaru 2014, so I know the surprised looks you get. But those are some really bizarre comments!
Post # 15
Urgh, I feel you. We’re not getting married until 2016, since that’s when I’ll be finished with uni. The comments just keep rolling in…
Post # 16
Since everyone knows wedding planning is stressful, and turns sweet gentle women into bridezilla and that grooms are useless and never want to help at all and all you do as a couple anymore is fight……
I think thats what these people are running on. The misconception that engaged couples do nothing but fight throughtout their engagement, the bride becomes this detail obessessed monster, and the groom doesn’t care. While its true any couple that isn’t serious about the committment or are rushing into things which they aren’t really ready for, probably won’t survive any length of engagement. Many people need to realize this isnt usually the case. Many grooms do care and have opinions about certain details, and while most brides get super stressed, not all become demanding little princesses.
I’m sorry you’re getting this reaction, people can be so ignorant.