(Closed) WTF??? Why do I listen to people?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like you thought it over long and hard and did what was best for you.  9/11 isn’t bad luck, of course every 9/11 I send massive love to the survivors and loved ones of people who died on 9/11, but also on that day, one of my best friends celebrates her birthday.  Good things happen on 9/11, too.  And on your 9/11, you’ll get married. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

It’s not bad luck.  Especially given that you are in Canada I highly doubt it will be a big issue.  I would suggest people stay away from this date if they are in NYC or if any of their guests were personally affected by the tragedy on 9/11 but since that doesn’t seem to be the case for you it’s not a problem at all!  Now you’ll have happy memories associated with that day for the rest of your life.  Marriage isn’t about luck : )

Post # 5
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Because some people no matter what can’t keep their traps shut. Can’t stand it and as far as I am concerned or you are, I don’t remember either of us asking for anyones opinions! It is not bad luck. I had my MIL tell me that too bc I got married at  2 pm instead of going with the clock going down not up? WTF? Had no clue what she was talking about nor did I care. Just try and ingnore all you can!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I think you’re bringing back good juju on that date. One day, a long time from now, the date will lose it’s pain.
Not that we should forget the terribleness- it’s just that time heals and other things, good and bad take it’s place. Does anyone remember the Pearl Harbor date?

I’m happy that you set a date- congrats!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pearl Harbour December 7th, 1941.

I am a history major and bad things have happened on nearly every single day of the year. I would never be able to pick a wedding date if I was trying to avoid days of tragedy for superstitious reasons (and I am part irish so yes, I have been brought up to be slightly superstitious). Agree with many of the bees that if you were in NYC I would possibly avoid it just because you may of had people affected by that tragedy.

But you are in Ottawa, I doubt most would notice.

Post # 8
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is something I feel strongly about because our wedding is on September 11th and we are in NJ.  We’ve gotten some people who raised an eyebrow about our choice but the truth is, it is a date in history, albeit a tragic date, but the fact that we still refer to it as 9/11 forever makes it so.  Like sulaii said, Pearl Harbor was an equally horrific attack on the US, but we don’t call it 12/7.  To continue on with our lives we need to be able to carry on with the day and make it into a happy special one while still respecting and remembering those who were lost, which is what we are doing.    

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sept. 11 was a particularly good day for my friend who was born that day.  On the other hand, Dec. 24 was a particularly bad day for a family friend who died that day.

Choose the day that works for you and forget what other people say.  It’s not bad luck; there’s no superstitious energy lingering with that day.

Congratulations – have an amazing wedding and a wonderful marriage!  🙂

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I think I would have 2 responses for them:

  1. Try telling that to those whose birthday is 9/11
  2. We thought it would be wonderful to celebrate life in honor of those who were killed in the attacks. We don’t see it as bad luck at all…

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My parents got married on September 11th… about 35 years ago. So you just tell those people to STFU, and you’ll get married when you want to. If they’re afraid the sky is going to fall or the world is going to end, then they don’t need to come – or even discuss – your special, happy day!

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