Post # 1
So, I previously wrote about FI’s childhood chum (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/this-is-not-your-wedding). But this one, oh man, this one makes my tummy clench and my blood pressure go up.
So Fiance and childhood chum get together this week when Fiance went to his hometown. His friend again asked if he could be in the wedding party, and asked who was standing up next to me. It’s my friend, D, who happens to be a man. FI’s friend says “that doesn’t send up red flags to you?” and then says “I’m just saying man, it should send up red flags. She’s up there with another dude.”
WTF?! Either your questioning my lack of girlfriends (who are all pregnant and can’t travel. And my other girlfriend is out officiant for heaven’s sake!) or my fidelity and faithfulness to Fiance. And that, quite frankly, is an off limits target. This is our relationship, childhood chum, so get out of the middle of it! I’m so angry I could spit!
Fiance, gratefully, handeled it as best he could. He put his friend in his place.
But me? I’m SO.OVER.HIM. I wish Fiance would dump him as a friend. He’s such a douche. (Can you say douche on here? Either way…). I’m so angry. GAH!
Post # 3
What a jerk comment. What did your Fiance say exactly…I’m too curious!
Post # 4
@An Alaskan Bride: what an ass (and Im pretty sure we can get away with saying worse things). My Fiance would have handed him his ass if one of his friends had suggested something like that about me.
Post # 5
stupid stupid stupid. There are women out there closer to another guy than a female friend. Doesn’t mean you are cheating or not a good girlfriend. Maybe after his obnoxious comment, your Fiance will see the light and gradually let this guy fade into the horizon of friendships past.
Post # 7
this guy is single, right?
Post # 8
@bebefly: bahahaha – that was my first thought
Post # 10
This guy sounds AWFUL, but your fiance sounds great! 🙂
Post # 11
Wow, this guy sounds like a winner. I read your other post too. Ugh. But I think it’s great that your Fiance is standing up for you. I’m not saying my Fiance would leave me dangling out there alone in this situation, but I’m not sure he would be as direct as your Fiance in telling his friend (nicely) to piss off and mind his own. I, too, have had a tense relationship with one of my FI’s friends, and it took awhile before my Fiance finally told him to stop antagonizing me and behave himself.
But anyway, I mainly just wanted to say that it sounds like your Fiance is an absolute gem. And I’m sorry you have to put up with this gigantic bag of douchery.
Post # 12
Thanks, everyone. Of course he’s single! What, you’re suprised to hear that women aren’t following him around in droves, begging him to treat them badly? B/C he surely is! 😉
I know this isn’t the “right” thing to do, but man, I so badly want Fiance to dump this guy as a friend. I’ll never be that girl who makes her Fiance ditch a friend, but he reminds me of concrete shoes – just dragging everyone down with him.
@GreenGables: I’m kinda with you, actually. Fiance is as cool as a cucumber, and the nicest person I’ve ever met (he is a gem! I love him bunches!) but his friend is use to the cool as a cucumber-ness. I don’t think the friend really takes him seriously. I kinda wish that just once, when the friend was running his mouth, Fiance would, I don’t know, be more stern, or encourage him to take a flying leap, or something. I really think the friend kinda writes off FI’s standing up for me.
@soyjoy222: Bingo. I’ve been friends with my man of honor longer than I’ve been with Fiance. I think the friend is just amazed that men and women can actually just be friends.
Thanks, everyone! I appreciate it!
Post # 13
Yeah, my FI’s got one of these too. Its so fun. He asked Fiance the other day why I don’t like him and Fiance told him it’s because he’s a dick. Haha, in those words! Annnd he still doesn’t get it….oh and this friend is also FI’s ex’s brother. I don’t see why he is friends with this guy at all, but it’s his friend, not mine. As long as he is standing up for me, there isn’t a whole lot I can do except avoid this guy and delete his drama posts on my FB.
Post # 14
@An Alaskan Bride: Ugh why are men to DUH! sometimes? The things they think and allow to come out of their mouths!
I have an old college friend that I worked with at a local restaurant while at school and have known him for 10+ years (longer than I have known or been with my FI). I met him and another friend at the same restaurant to catch up (my Fiance didn’t feel like joining us but WAS invited) and one of my FI’s co-workers just happened to be there (mind you I had JUST met this co-worker two days before for the first time).
The co-worker came up me and said “aren’t you X’s girl?” and proceeded to imply things he had no business implying as I was with another guy without my Fiance around. After dinner I raced home, stormed in the door and told my Fiance what happened…I was furious. My Fiance addressed the co-worker the next day and the guy said that he assumed I was cheating and was relieved that I had mentioned it, because he thought he was going to have break the bad news. Who the hell does this guy think he is? Apparently even his mother (who was with him at the restaurant) even told him to mind his own business!!!!