WWWHHHHYYYY did I watch that!?! Question tied into the story..

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My maid of honour, they cut here because they knew she was going to rip (so they could stich it up easier) but for some reason the doctor cut to the right (under her ass cheek). It tore 2 weeks later and they told her she had to suck it up till it healed because they weren’t going to stich her up again. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@graygodess20:  Giving birth isn’t the prettiest! Having just come out of nursing school I had witnessed quite a few births (one natural) and c-sections during my maternity rotation. None of the mom’s seemed phased at the time, I imagine you have a whole lot of adrenaline going at the time and everything happens pretty quickly. I haven’t given birth myself so I can’t really say what it’s like from the mother’s perspective.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@graygodess20:  Giving birth isn’t the prettiest! Having just come out of nursing school I had witnessed quite a few births (one natural) and c-sections during my maternity rotation. None of the mom’s seemed phased at the time, I imagine you have a whole lot of adrenaline going at the time and everything happens pretty quickly. I haven’t given birth myself so I can’t really say what it’s like from the mother’s perspective.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Oops double post, sorry!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@graygodess20:  I didn’t go naturally but I did have most of the feeling back during the pushing phase of my sons birth. I had a pretty bad tear and let me tell you, I felt it, but I was so focused on getting him out that I just didnt’ really think about it. There was so much going on and and I had other things to focus on so thankfully I don’t remember it much. I mean I remember the moment it happened, I remember the pain, but what was I going to do ya know? coudn’t stop it so I just kept on truckin.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

@menzies:  Ugh. I thought midline episiotimies were the gold standard now? I’m not a fan in general, since I think they make tearing worse, but I was under the impression that at least most people didn’t cut to the side any more (which is more painful and difficult in healing). I wonder why her doctor did that…

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was in the room for a few of my neices and nephews’ births… Tearing or cutting… none of its pretty. My sister didn’t even realize she tore but getting stitched back up hurt like hell. But i really want to do natural (no epidural). Maybe i’ve lost my mind.

I can’t think about this… Its making me second guess ever having kids! Oh well its only a day right?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Episiotomies are not standard practice in my area anymore. The thought is that if you already have a cut, it’s going to make you tear worse. It’s better to tear naturally. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think I’m scarred after reading the one bee’s birth story and her resulting “vaganus”. Child birth is terrifying haha.

I have a friend who had a natural birth but also had an episiotomy and a 3rd degree tear, and I think they numbed her up with a local beforehand.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@graygodess20:  I had a natural birth, no episiotomy, and a very small tear that required only 5 stitches.  You are statistically more likely to tear (and to tear much, much worse) if you get the episiotomy.  A natural tear, while sometimes a little crooked, rarely extends into the deep muscle tissue.

But to answer your question- no it didn’t hurt as much as you would think.  I mean, the crowning part definitely stings (ok, they don’t call it the ‘Ring of Fire’ for no reason!) but it wasn’t as bad as what I had in my head.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@graygodess20:  I’ve been told its a bad idea to get the episiotomy because if you compare it to a piece of fabric, if you try to tear it without first cutting a slit, it will be harded to tear, or at least won’t tear as easily. But, if you first cut a slit into the fabric and then try to tear, it will tear very easily and possibly more than it need to.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think episiotomies are becoming rarer and rarer because most doctors feel that tearing is better and heals better.
I’ve had 2 medication-free births and tore both times. I didn’t feel it happen either time and it really didn’t hurt at all. I had 4 stitches the first time and none the second time.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not sure what it’s like where you live, but in the hospitals I’ve worked in episiotomies are very unsual and only done in externuating circumstances, e.g. shoulder dystocia. Tearing naturally generaly results in less tearing and better healing. Talk to your doctor about it!

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