WWYD?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: How would you deal with this?
    Try to get FMIL on your flight and deal with her at DW : (13 votes)
    54 %
    Get FI to convince FSIL to come to the wedding with FMIL : (3 votes)
    13 %
    Forget it and just concentrate on getting married : (8 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @PMSJL:  Are you making everyone else’s flight arrangements?  If your FMIL wants to come, awesome, but I don’t think you have to figure out a way to get her there.  Especially if you aren’t a huge fan of her and putting her on your same flight means she’ll be there… .annoying you… a few days before the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    1793 posts
    Buzzing bee

    why can’t she just come out by herself? why does she need to tra el with you guys or fsil?

    Post # 6
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    42453 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s not clear to me from your post whether FSIL and FBIl are coming or not. If they are, I woud book FMIL on the same flight as them and then back off and let them make their own plans for getting to and from the airport.

    Post # 8
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    In the grand scheme of things, it sounds like it’s important for your FMIL to attend the wedding.  First, I would get your FI to speak to his sister to request that she at least make sure FMIL gets on the plane; have someone else be responsible to pick her up once she lands if FSIL refuses to help out.  If that is totally undoable, then I would book her on my flight with my FI and I and just figure out how to deal.  You have plenty of years for other trips and to spend time alone as a couple, but he only has one mom and you only get one chance to have her at your wedding.  Not to mention that if she is old and has medical problems, she’s not going to be around for long so there aren’t many more memories to make with her.

    Post # 9
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    4410 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am a little confused. Is this the situation?

    –FMIL wants to go to the wedding, but no one is offering to go with her, and she can’t travel alone.

    –FSIL and FBIL are both attending, but neither wants to take FMIL.

    Is that right? If that’s the case, then yes, I would just book FMIL on your flight and get her out there. The question is, though, who is going to take care of her over the weekend? You guys are going to be busy getting married. Can you rely on FSIL or FBiL or another relative to take responsibility for her?

    Post # 10
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    42453 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @PMSJL:  FSIL who hates me refuses to take FMIL to DW.

    So how could FSIL possibly take FMIL if she lives 1200 miles away?
     
    Is there another family member, a neighbour or a friend who could talke FMIl to the airport and help her get checked in? Once she’s on the plane , there is really nothing anyone needs to do for her.

    Post # 12
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Is there anyone else who can take care of her once she arrives, like your aunt or MOH or someone?  Due to her age and the circumstances, I’d probably bite the bullet and put her on our flight.  But I wouldn’t then want to be responsible for entertaining her during her entire stay.  Will your FBIL or FSIL agree to handle her once she’s there?

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Then ask the brother (her son) to take care of her.  If your FI wants to have his mom at his wedding, I’d think his brother would step up to the plate and help make it happen.  One flight with her won’t kill you.  Sit her next to your FI and bring an iPod and headphones.

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