- 2 years ago
This is just a question, looking for the general consensus here since I have noticed some “liberal” behavior(s) from our neighbor.
Backstory: we have lived in our house for about a year. In that time, we have met several of our neighbors here and there, mostly just polite waves and general chit chat around the mailbox. The neighbor directly next to us has two large dogs, and I noticed one day ( after we first moved in) that they would go outside and play frisbee in our yard. By playing in “our yard” I mean they would stand in theirs and throw the frisbee into ours and the dogs would retrieve. This goes on a couple times a week or so.
At some point they did ask if we minded (I told them no). We also have a dog and so we would let ours out to play with the other 2 occasionally, but not every time. My dogs (we have gotten another one since moving in), like to bolt occasionally so I don’t like them going outside with leashes. Plus, we live on a corner lot with a semi busy street on the other side of our house.
So, DH and I were invited to a cookout several weeks ago and a lot of neighbors were in attendance. I was sitting with a group of women and they brought up how rude they thought it was that we let them use our yard at will. I mentioned that I said it I OK’d it, but they still went on and on about how strange it was and that they wouldn’t ever even ask to do that because it is weird! It kind of startled me
Well, this morning I am outside early– like 5:45 AM getting something out of my vehicle, when I see our neighbor with their leashed dog in our back yard and the dog is just taking a shit. Right there! They have a fenced back yard the same size as ours, but here they are in our yard, with the leashed dog, taking a crap. I could definitely understand if the dog got out unleashed and just did his business wherever… mine has done that before. I tend to err on the side of mercy when it comes to people and pets because DH and I have two very active, very entertaining dogs. I find myself apologizing to people a lot for my dogs’ behavior ( hello, howling because they want to jump up or bolting if the door is slightly open so that they can go chase squirrels).
But this has me a little pissed, and I kind of want to say something. Of course, nothing is worse than a neighbor war! And it isn’t even that the dog poops in our yard, hell–it’s free fertilization! It is that they seem pretty cavalier to use our stuff as theirs… and that I am NOT comfortable with!
I’m not going to scoop up the poop and put it on their doorstep or anything. Like I said, it is more about their actions in using our property as theirs.
So.. WWYD?? Sorry, that got long.