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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    One of my sorority sisters is getting married Oct. 2 and the wedding is 3 hrs away from us. We have a wedding locally Oct. 1 and were planning on driving up the morning of the 2nd IF we're invited.

    IF... that's right, I've yet to receive an actual invite in the mail. I kept receiving invites for bridal showers and bachelorette parties, but no STD or invite, so I finally contacted a bridesmaid (throwing all the parties)/mutual sister and basically was like, Sorry to be awkward, but do you know if I'm invited to the wedding?

    She told me Yes, that our sister told us I was... and then I got a message via FB from the sister getting married saying that I was and that her FI will get a new invite to the right address in the mail right away.

    That was a few weeks ago, and now we're within the month and I'm sure catering deadlines are approaching.

    What should I do or say? We've made the plans to go, but we haven't gotten an actual invite. Granted, she did send a message to me saying they would "send a new one to the right address" (and we did just recently move).

    It seems awkward to do anything... but I have to do something... 

     
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    I would prob ask again, and say you need the info for the hotel or something.

     

     
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    MissHelen    November 20, 2010   California

    I agree with mishelleez. And if there's something going wrong with your mail, you need to know.

     
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    Ms.Teddy    April 2011   South Carolina

     

    I would try to speak to the bride somehow directly...she said you were invited so I would just ask her again if she was able to send out the invite.

     
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    SuperShopper    June 25, 2011   Midwest

    I'd send another message to her with your "offical RSVP" and explain that you hadn't gotten the invitation or you'd send the real one. 

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    How's...

    "Hey ____, How's everything going? I can't believe it's already September, time sure is flying! I know I'm starting to get stressed, so I can only imagine how you're doing! I didn't get the invite through the mail, but I'm sure your deadline for catering is fast approaching. FI and I would like to attend and celebrate with you, we're really looking forward to it! Can you perhaps just email me the time/locations of the ceremony and reception?"

     

     
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    MandaMack    September 10, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA

    @KLP2010: I think something like that would be totally appropriate (not to mention considerate)

     
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    SouthernTulip    October 23, 2010   Georgia

    I think something like that is really appropriate and as MandaMack said, very considerate and kind of you.!

    -Good Luck

     
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    clarebee    August 21, 2010   Vienna, VA (wedding in Greensboro, GA)

    @KLP2010: I think thats perfect! Thats so awkward though, Im sorry!!

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    I think it'll clear her and your mind if you just go straight out and ask her.  I've been in similar situations and sometimes it the mail's fault and others they were just super late mailing the invites!

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Our wedding is also Oct 2 and our RSVP deadline is this weekend, but we could have easily set it a week later. Is there someoe else you can ask about when the rsvp deadline is? I wouldn't contact her until you're close to it, personally.

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Hahaha, so, I sent the above and she emailed me back saying that she couldn't believe either didn't make it and that she was looking forward to celebrating with us as well. THEN... in today's mail I just got the Invite! ROFL, dang it, if only I had waited to cross something else off the to do list! 

    haha, wow. 

     

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