(Closed) WWYD? Dropping out of a wedding, bride wants the bridesmaid dress given to her

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

first off- i remember your original post and i’m SO GLAD you dropped out.  that was getting pretty ridiculous.  and you are absolutely right- she needs to pay you.  P.S. why does anyone NEED to replace a 10th bridesmaid?  you’d think the other 9 could handle the respective duties lol.

Post # 4
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with you, you paid for the dress so its yours. She’s just trying to guilt you into giving her the dress for free. She’s in the wrong, if I were you I’d stick to my guns and let her know you’d gladly sell it but won’t give it up for free.

Post # 5
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1254 posts
Bumble bee

She’s definitely in the wrong and being a complete Bridezilla! You were absolutely right for dropping out.

I say offer to sell her the dress and don’t budge. If she doesn’t take the offer, you can sell the dress elsewhere.

Post # 6
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Um, you paid for the dress. It’s yours. End of story. Don’t fall prey to her crazy, pushy tactics.

Post # 7
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow. Not only was that bride really rude to you on the phone (no matter if she already had hurt feelings before) but I think that was also an unreasonable request on her part. If she paid for the dress that would be one thing but seeing that your mom bought the dress, that is just crazy of her to ask that. I think you were absolutely right in saying she could buy the dress from you but not have it! I think she is just being mean now…

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@lulu mae: if you read the OP’s other posts about this bride, she was always mean! 

Post # 9
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

She is out of line.  It’s one thing to ask for the dress, to be reimbursed, if time is short and it’d be hard to order a new one.  She’s asking you to stiff your mom, as well, after she bought the dress for you which is a pretty jerky thing to do.

If she doesn’t want the other bridesmaid to have to pay for the dress, she should pay for it herself.  From a quick read of your earlier post, it seems like she has money to spare for stuff like this.  I can think of no reason why you should give in to her on this – she’s the one who’s out of line.

Post # 10
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I whole heartedly agree with the other replies!  The bride is acting nutso!  Clearly, she’s just bitter, though it sounds like you’ve been so sweet and logical about all this with her.  She really needs to chill out a little and take a look at things from a better perspective.

Post # 12
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The dress is yours. She’s a bridezilla.

Post # 13
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

That’s insane – you paid for the dress, it’s yours. If she wants it, she should have to pay for it.

Post # 14
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

She can have the dress, if someone pays you for it!  She is just flipping out, she went to ridiculous land!  Probably the stress is getting to her…

Post # 15
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2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d just sale the dress elsewhere to recoup the cost. F her, how can she act so accomodating over cost to another individual when she so blatantly didn’t/doesn’t give two sh!ts about your financial situation?

I would absolutely expect her to pay for the dress in full. No money, no dress, too bad so sad.

Post # 16
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Keep the dress. If she doesn’t want the new BM to have to pay for a dress, SHE can cover the cost herself. She has already cost you a ridiculous amount of money not to mention stress so she’ll get over it…and if not…oh well

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