- 8 years ago
Background: I was set to be in a friends wedding 20 days before mine. When I orginally said yes to being a BM I didn’t realize her shower would be nearly $350/bridesmaid (there were 10 of us), nearly $200/bridesmaid for the bachelorette party, on top of normal bridesmaids expenses. I ended up calling the bride and lettering her know I couldn’t afford it and that was that. (click on the link for a more in-depth story).
Today, I’m visiting my sister, and I see I missed a call from the bride. I get an voicemail from her. She wanted to know if I would give her the bridesmaid dress I bought, (actually my mom got it for me), because she found someone else to be in the wedding.
Thats all fine and good, so I call her back thinking, great, I’ll re-coup the cost of the dress. So I let her know that its fine if she wants the dress, but that I’d need to be paid for it. When I asked this, she flipped out. She told me that since she was asking this new bridesmaid to be in the wedding she didn’t want her to have to pay for the dress, and that since I wouldn’t likely use the dress, that I’d have no problem giving it to her.Especially considering I dropped out of her wedding. I explained that I did pay for the dress, but I’d need to think about it.
I called my mom to get her perspective and she thought that the bride was being outrageous. That she is welcome to the dress but that she would have to pay for it.
I called the bride back, explaining that my mom actually paid for the dress, and that she was welcome to it, however, I would need to be re-imbursed for it. She said, absolutely not, that she would not pay for it. And then hung up on me.
There are obviously hurt feelings, and I understand that. However, I think its asburd that she expected me to give her back the dress, (especially since its kinda cute & I planned on wearing it to an event after her wedding) for free. I mean, I paid for it, why should some other girl get to wear the dress I paid for.
So bees, what are your thoughts?