- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I cannot believe I am even writing this.
I have what I *thought* was a good friend we’ll call Kara, and she is engaged to a guy named Mike. I really, really liked this gal; we have a lot in common and just “clicked.” Mike and my FI also hit it off, and are good buddies.
The last few weeks, I have noticed Kara wasnt returning my text messages; and FI noticed that Mike seemed to be less responsive than usual about plans. We both thought maybe they were busy and just let it be.
A few days ago, FI invited them out with us. When only Mike showed up, I (obviously) asked where Kara was. His response floored us:
“She broke things off and moved out a couple weeks ago.”
When FI pressed him as to what happened, he said: “It came out of nowhere: I came home and she accused me of having a crush on Badabing, among other things. I obviously told her that’s insane, and she said that if I didnt, why would I have gotten y’all an engagement present when I don’t do anything nice for her. She also went on to tell me that if I wanted to get her back, I had to buy her a ‘real’ engagement ring.”
We couldnt believe our ears: I swear, we NEVER saw this side of her. Ever. I thought I had this awesome, supportive friend with a level/non-diva head on her shoulders…when all along she’s been harboring this insane notion that her FI liked me. Her engagement ring probably cost TWICE what mine did, by the way.
As we kept talking, he indicated that they are still in contact and he would take her back on a ‘trial’ period if she wanted to apologize; as he loves her and is hoping she’s just blowing smoke. FI told Mike we’d support him no matter what he chose to do.
Here is one gaping problem: why in the HELL would I ever want to be around this girl EVER again? Not only was her accusation ridiculous, but what if my FI was the suspicious/jealous type and started questioning me? What if her insecurities had damaged MY relationship?
I dont know what to do if they get back together, which it sounds like they might.
WWYD? Keep hanging out with them like nothing happened is obviously not an option. Only hang out with FI and Mike? Not hang out with ANY of them?
**ETA: Yes, of course I understand there are two sides to every story. Like I mentioned above, she has been ignoring my texts and messages, so her side of this is a complete mystery.