Post # 1
I’m going to try and keep this short:
My dad has 5 sisters. As it tends to be, all of his sisters are closer and my parents aren’t that close to them (since he’s the boy). We’re a “holiday and special occasion” family, whereas my aunts and tier families get together for shopping, movie nights, dinner, etc.
so- recently my dad’a youngest sister was kind of…kicked out of the family. She was living with my (98) year old grandmother and serving as her caretaker, only she wasn’t actually taking care of my grandmother (she was basically living with her boyfriend) and may or may not have been stealing money. So my other aunts got together in some sort of survival style tribal council and (with my grandmother’s consent) decided to sell my grandma’s condo and have her move in with another aunt, leaving my youngest aunt essentially homeless.
obviously there are some bad feelings there, and to date my aunt hasn’t attended any events or answered any phone calls.
So, this is where I come in. Obviously I have no ill-will towards my aunt given my lack of involvement in the situation, but I don’t have her address. I had sent her a STD when she lived with my grandma, but I have no idea where she’s living now and neither do my other aunts. And again, she’s not answering anyone’s phone calls/requests for address. and she’s not on Facebook. So…if we don’t get a response to our request for address, do we just…not send her an invitation to the wedding?
Post # 3
@StL.Ashley: Just leave her a message on her phone or text- that you have her invitation waiting for her. It is all you can do. If she doesnt RSVP, Id assume she isnt coming. You do have time though, hopefully shell respond to you soon.
Post # 4
This is a tough one, but I don’t see how you would be able to send an invite if no one has an address. Just keep trying and if she comes back to you about anything I would just say that you tried to contact her and she didn’t return your calls.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. This is definitely tough. If you’re sure you have the right number, just leave a message saying that you’d like to send her an invitation and you’d like her address. When invitation time comes around, I’d also leave a message inviting her to the wedding. That’s pretty much all you can do.
Post # 6
Is there any chance of the other aunts ganging up on her and causing a scene at the wedding?
Post # 7
I would leave a message on her phone saying you’d like to know where to send her invitation and you need the address by X date. If she doesn’t get back to you then I wouldn’t worry about it because she clearly doesn’t want to attend.
Post # 8
@StL.Ashley: Leave her a message where she can get it. She’ll let you know where to send it, or she can just RSVP directly to you with no need to send if she doesn’t have a stable address.
Just keep telling yourself that this is a solveable problem!