WWYD? Offhanded coworker comment about ring, feeling self-conscious : (

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

codysgirl16:  When I saw the title of the thread I was expecting way worse. I don’t think he meant anything negative by it. I’m a firm believer in if a ring (or anything else that’s legal and whatnot) makes YOU happy, who cares what others think anyway??

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If I was standing there, when he made that comment, I wouldn’t have thought anything about you, good or bad. I would’ve looked at your ring, because he was obviously drawing attention to it, & would’ve most likely thought “oh that’s pretty” and been onto the next thought. . .but that’s just me. I wouldn’t have thought you were ostentatious. I don’t know him, but by just reading your story, it almost sounds like a compliment. But again, I don’t know him or his personality. I wouldn’t think too much about it. But I do understand why you are. Sometimes the things people say make us feel a little uncomfortable & make us question ourselves. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

codysgirl16:  Just telling by his age, you probably shouldn’t worry about it.  He didn’t mean anything by it, but noticed that you have a likely expensive ring. Has he said anything else to make you feel this way?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

It sounds like a joke… It wasn’t meant to be cruel

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Why do you care so much what other people think? There will always be someone to judge. And maybe it was just a bad joke…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think he was kidding but you should have said something to respond like “that’s not very nice” or don’t let my husband hear you say that” and then laugh… I think he just said something and it missed it’s funny mark. I hope, if not who gives a shit. Rock that rock baby!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Honestly I wouldn’t have thought much of it. It just sounds like it was a joke or something.

Maybe the reason it struck a nerve with you is because maybe you’ve previously thought your ring seems ostentatious and now your using that man’s comment to confirm it?

It was a little rude of him to even say that. But I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it and I certainly wouldn’t have felt embarrassed by it. I would’ve just retorted with something like PP suggested and that would’ve been it.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

That’s not a big deal! Id just say “I don’t think so coworker!” and laughed it off. Don’t be embarrassed.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Sounds like a joke. Don’t worry about it. I’m sure there was nothing more to it than an off-hand attempt at humor.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Sounds like it was a joke, I don’t see any reason to be offended. I’m kind of confused…why on Earth would it make you self-conscious?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s a joke! He’s not going to understand what kind of emotions it would cause with his statement but I wouldn’t think twice about it other than laughing. Just shake it off =)

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Depends on how much money they were looking for and how much my ring was actually worth I probably would have come up with some smart ass remark about it not being enough or saying sure, and laughing it off.  Seems like a silly thing to get worked up over or feel self conscious about though.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Um…is this not more of a compliment??

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