Post # 1
I am watching Dr. Phil right now, and the episode is on an 11 year old girl who gets pregnant by a 13 year old boy. She had never even had a period yet and still got pregnant. Her parents had no idea she even knew what sex really was.
I know that kids today are having sex younger and younger, but in my mind, anyone 13 and under is a child, a baby themselves (as far as sexuality goes). Even if kids this young manage to have sex, I just don’t believe that under any circumstances, is an 11 year old girl physically, mentally or emotionally prepared to carry a pregnancy and go through labor.
So, hypothetically, bees…what would you do? If your 11 year old daughter (or 9, 10, 12yrs old) somehow got pregnant, how would you handle it? Would you let her have a say in what you decide to do? Would you have her carry the pregnancy full term and give birth or would you have her abort?
***I know this is an extremely sensitive topic, so let’s all be respectful. I am just genuinely curious what other people would do. I know that I personally would really struggle with this. On one hand, I would never think my 11 year old daughter ready to experience pregnancy and birth and I wouldn’t want that for her. But could I force her to have an abortion for her own good if she didn’t want to? I really don’t know.***
FWIW, the 11 year old on Dr Phil DID deliver the baby, 11 weeks prematurely, and both almost died.
Post # 3
A child that age cannot safely carry a pregnancy to term without complications for both mother and baby. I would have her terminate the pregnancy, absolutely.
Post # 4
I’d suggest abortion and house arrest for the rest of my daughter’s life
Post # 5
I would be enlisting the help of every psychologist, doctor and specialist I could get to help navigate the situation. I don’t even know where I would start. IMO the child carrying the baby to term is far too dangerous to her. I don’t think it’s ethical to leave a child who does not understand what is going on and is clearly the victim of an abusive situation to go on and have a child out of it. But, I would be very carefully navigating the situation with doctors and psychologists.
That’s just a bad situation all around with no easy answer.
Post # 6
Termination asap. No question.
Post # 7
@kittyface: +1, then start explaining sex immediately. I personally don’t think we teach children enough about sex before they encounter it.
Post # 8
@kittyface: I know that realistically, I’d probably have her terminate. I don’t ever believe that a baby is a “mistake,” but besides the physical and emotinal risk to my own daughter, I wouldn’t want something she chose to do at 11 without really knowing the consequences to affect her entire life, as a baby definitely would.
@littlemisst08: I know this is a serious topic, but your answer made me LOL.
Seriously though, where were the parents?? Again though, maybe I’m naive, but if my 11 year old had a 13 year old long time friend, I would never assume they were trying to have sex when I wasn’t around!
Post # 9
It is not safe for a child that age to carry a pregnancy to term. I would have her abort and there would be some serious talks to follow along with extensive sexual education.
Post # 10
This is a heartbreaking situation and I can’t say what I would do… let’s all just hope we never encounter it! And we realize we need to educate our daughters (and sons) MUCH earlier than we ever anticipated.
Post # 11
Oh this is awful. I’m not pro-life nessesarily, but for me personally I couldn’t have an abortion unless there was some medical reason to and then it would be a really hard decision for me. I’m pro-choice for everyone else. I don’t think abortion should be illegal or anything. I just feel like it wouldn’t be right for me except under extreme circumstances. So, I would really struggle with this. But I think that abortion may be the best in this case. It seems so dangerous for a child that age. It also seems like it could cause some emotional problems because children that young just shouldn’t be having children. This is just so sad.
I feel for this mom. I can understand why she was shocked about this, but why was she leaving her kid alone with a 13 year old boy?
Post # 12
Off to the abortion clinic we’d go! She wouldn’t have a choice in the matter. I had my first pregnancy scare at 15 and that’s exactly what my mom did with me.
Post # 13
It’s medically unsafe.
I’m not sure what kind of legal stances there are here. Technically you are responsible for your minor. But does that mean you are responsible for their kid if they were to give birth before turning 18? Like you have to feed and shelter your own kid- what about your kid’s kid?
This is such a mess. Abortion for safety of mother, a giant intervention on sex, and grounded til 18.
Post # 14
My main concern would be her health. I don’t know if at that age, her body could even handle carrying a baby to term and giving birth. She hasn’t gone through puberty yet, no childbearing hips, no boobs for milk. I’d be terrified that something would happen to her during childbirth. I’d be scared of something happening to the baby. I don’t know what I’d do. I’m prochoice, but would never personally have one myself. I don’t know if I could advocate her getting an abortion. It’s a tough situation. I don’t know what we would do.
Post # 15
I have a 10 year old so I can kind of (but of course not really) think what I would do in this posistion. I would have the pregnancy terminated- mostly because I don’t think that an 11 year old can safely carry it. If she was older- 15 or 16 I would be more understanding if she wanted to carry it to term and give it up for adoption etc.
Post # 16
Termination, no ifs and buts. I am pro-choice and think every woman needs to make a decision for themselves, but at 11, I would not stand for it. She’s getting an abortion as soon as possible.