Post # 1
I’m feelin down in the dumps & generally unappreciated and unwanted today. My boss- the managing partner at the law firm- had me make reservations for him & all the other attorneys to go out to a new fancy restaurant in town for lunch. Then called me to make arrangements the next week for pizza & a room for a partners meeting (literally scheduled less than 4 days later).
He just came in & handed me my bonus check- with the bottom #’s ripped off so my bank won’t even take it (had to take it to his bank, cash it, then hope I don’t get mugged on the way to deposit it at my bank). Normally we get these at our christmas lunch in a card (we used to have a formal sit down dinner, then he took over & it became a catered lunch during our lunch hour) so I’m guessing that we’re not doing that this year as he would have asked me to schedule that before now. He didn’t even give us anything extra in the bonus check to makeup for not having anytype of x-mas party. Then goes out twice within 5 days with the attorneys- way to show your appreciation and consideration for your staff at the holidays!
Am I being a bratt or do I have rason to feel a little hurt & unappreciated? Do you bees have office parties/bonuses?
Post # 3
@BeckyS0: I can understand why you’re upset; there was a precedent that was set for you, and so you had certain expectations about it.
That said, I think all I can say is not to expect anything in the future. I know that super sucks – but I say it with experience. Last year, my DH and I were waiting for a bonus of sorts, and we found out (after we signed the contract for our venue, just a couple weeks before the deposit was due) that we weren’t getting that bonus anymore. Really screwed us over, and things were ridiculous for a couple weeks. I was very upset and frustrated at the situation for a while… and there was nothing I could do. Poor DH had to listen to me stress and whine about it for, like, a month… but we made it. Since then, I don’t expect anything from my job apart from the paycheck I’m given, and that seems to work out pretty well. 🙂
I don’t know if that helps and I’m sure it doesn’t make you feel much better, but I thought I’d give you my two cents. I guess the upside is that you did, at least, get something, which is awesome in this economy 🙂
Post # 4
In the 6 years I have worked at my job we have run the gamut from fancy after work party, to fancy at work party (with Santa and presents for everyone’s kids, and $10 gifts weekly in December, then a nice bonus of $50-100.) Now we have a potluck lunch and Secret Santa. Sometimes the boss will take us out to lunch, sometimes not.
SO um, I guess be glad you have a bonus? I *might* get a gift card of $20 from my boss this year, and a free lunch where I can listen to her compain for an hour or so. YAY!
Post # 5
Look on the bright side: you got a bonus and you didn’t have to endure an office Xmas party.
I get a bonus some years (depends on the ecnonomy and my perceived performance, so I always appreciate it). I’ve heard nothing about an office Xmas party this year and I’m kind of relieved.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I’m sure the check ripping was an accident, just be thankful for the bonus. Especially if it was enough that you’re worried about getting robbed on the way to deposit it!
Post # 7
I find that when I’m feeling frustrated and unappreciated in my job these things really bother me. Are things ok at work otherwise?
Post # 8
I’m a teacher and I WISH that I got a bonus!
Post # 9
I am very thankful for the bonus- this is the first year it’ll actually be going straight into savings, normally I have to use it to pay bills.
@SquidWeds: You are right on- I haven’t enjoyed or really even liked my job for at least a year. I would say it’s tolerable at best now. I started there 4+ years ago and was given no training or anything- just stuck in an office and told to call this other guy if I had questions. At the beginning my boss was excited and would listen to my thoughts & recommendations for making things easier and more productive- put me in charge of quite a few large projects that I successfully completed to the benefit of the entire firm. We’ve never had a staff meeting or training or anything in the 4+ years I’ve worked there- except for the one I organized b/c we were having some issues with new hires and the receptionist.
My boss is the part of the office I do not like. He’s a great attorney but he’s got a holier-than-thou attitude all the time. Even when I try to point out facts or deadlines ahead of time to avoid any time crunches he interrupts me before I can finish with something along the lines of ‘he knows what he’s doing, he’s been doing it long before I came along, and that I don’t know what I’m talking about” . Then later on the same thing I was trying to tell him about resurfaces and creates all kinds of issues since it was never taken care of and he calls me in to fix it never acknowledging that I brought the issue up weeks ago and that the time crunch & late fees and all could have avoided had he trusted and listened to me. He doesn’t care to follow procedures & gets annoyed when I do follow it because it takes too much time. He has been remembering things lately that never happened, then insisting they did. He asked me to get a file for him the other day then freaked out when I told him I didn’t know anything about it- he swore he asked me to open it for him but all he asked for was a billing #. He eventually realized he never asked me to open it but he still doesn’t apologize for basically calling me a liar that can’t do their job. He makes a habit of saying that everyone is replaceable when the truth of the matter is that no-one else will work for him. He went through 5 assistants before I started there- not a single one would stay longer than a month! He talks down to me in a snarky tone & has called me out in front of multiple clients for things he never asked me to do in the first place- I think just to make himself look better. When I try to point out that he never asked me to do that but that I’d take care of it now that I know he acts like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about.
The worst part of it all is that we have no HR office. So I have no-one to speak to regarding solving these issues . He’s the managing partner so he handles anytype of issues/complaints himself- except he doesn’t. Our receptionist & new hire started basically screaming at each other about a month ago over some paperwork, one of the attorneys brought it to his attention while it was happeneing & he just let it be & said that he hopes they can get along. Add to all that the fact that I haven’t had alot of work to do lately & have been bored out of my mind trying to stay busy. It’s not just me he treats this way either- the bookeeper almost went home crying a while back b/c of the way he was speaking to her & made her feel. I just feel stuck there, there is no possibility for promotions- the girls in our other office have been working in the same position their whole lives- they’re in their 60’s now and still working there. So it’s stable and pays well but I literally dread going in every morning….
Post # 10
To add insult to injury I keep hearing all my other law friends working in other firms (we’re the oldest in the county) have these awesome parties.
The firm right across the street is giving bonuses double ours, catered dinner for their staff & spouses at a nice restaurant, open bar, & are even paying for their cabs home! I know our firm is not hurtin and is actually doing just as good if not better financially than last year from my work with the bookeeper.
Post # 11
Bonus? What the heck is that, my company so doesn’t even do squat for bonuses let alone anything for Christmas. You should be just happy you get something out of the deal.
Post # 12
you got a bonus when most companies are just giving their employees a pizza party and a gift basket of candy. be happy with what you have since is CASH.
Post # 13
DH’s party was cancelled the day before, so I feel your pain!
Neither of us gets a Christmas bonus.
Post # 14
I get no bonus, no party, and no gift from work.
Post # 15
At least you boss didn’t do what mine is currently considering doing [having a christmas party for full time employees and the part time employee who has been there for 2 years but only works 6 hours per week (she’s related to the boss). Which means 5 out of 6 employees are invited. He justified it by saying the last employee is part time (true, but she’s been working 30+ hours per week which isn’t terribly different from 40 IMHO, esp. when someone who works 6 hours per week is invited) and has only been there for a month (but I started the day after her so that isn’t really a solid reason to exclude her either).] Pretty sure she’s going to be upset and I think thats reasonable. I did tell my boss I prefered a bonus over a party so we’ll see what he does.
Post # 16
I haven’t had a Christmas bonus in about 4 jobs. But it’s my job and I don’t expect them to throw me a party or give me free money. The Christmas bonus is going the way of the dodo, and office parties paid for by the company aren’t too far behind.