- pink peppercorn
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
Even though the holidays are over and done with, there’s an issue that is still contentious between DH and I. During xmas, my MIL has to make a big deal out of buying presents for everyone. Well, this year their family set a limit on the amount to $50. However, She was emailing me daily about what she should get DH for xmas and even after I gave her suggestions like dvds, books, games, she still pestered us for xmas lists and whatnot. What’s the point of getting gifts, if you have to hound us to tell her what we want exactly.
Well, a week or so before xmas, she emails me telling me that she heard that DH wants a kindle and that I should buy it for him and that she would buy the accessories for the kindle.
This might seem to be a helpful suggestion, but to me, the suggestion seem to me insensitive and overreaching. First, I have not been working since graduating from school, struggling to find a job, and have student loans to pay. Second, when I told her how much the kindle costs, she said that she knew exactly how much it costs, but still thought it was a good idea. Third, I just offended that she didn’t think I come up with an gift idea on my own to buy my DH. I’ve done ok every year we’ve been together. But just because we got married this year, she feels that she has to make sure I get her son the perfect gift. I’m like WTF. The issue was resolve after I told her I already got him a present and I could not afford such a gift.
After this, I am really dreading xmas next year. MIL has really took the joy out of it. I was already put off by her excessive pestering over xmas gifts but I especially pissed when she ask me to buy such a extravagant gift as a kindle knowing my situation.
Dh says that I just overreacting to the whole ordeal. However, I want your opinion. Do you think my MIL was over the line on this? Sorry for the long vent.