Yahrzeit Candle at Ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Jewish
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Have you thought about lighting regular candles instead?  The traditional yahrzeit candle is only lit on specific occasions — the anniversary of the loved one’s death, Yom Kippur, and a few other Jewish holidays.  I’ve never heard of lighting one at a wedding.  As you’ve noted, they are quite plain and unattractive (with those big white and blue stickers on the glass), and you’re supposed to let it burn itself out, which takes around 24 hours. 

Since a wedding is not a traditional yahrzeit occasion, do you need to feel bound by tradition?  You might talk with your rabbi about it.  A remembrance candle and prayer is a lovely idea, but perhaps something more attractive than a yahrzeit candle would be nicer for the occasion, plus you won’t feel bad about blowing it out after the ceremony. 

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