Y'all are the only ones I can vent to, so…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

First: have a drink of wine.

 

Now I will reread your post and say things more meaningful than, “Have a glass of wine.”

 

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I was not like this, until a few days ago when I had a massive row with FI over something I would have just let slide off my back at any other time. I’ve turned into a stressed out monster! I can’t believe I was so enraged by something like that.

I think you just have to breathe through it. How much more planning do you have to do? Do you have a checklist that you can tick things off? The thing that sent me over the edge was 5 weeks to the wedding + lots to do + nobody helping me with any of it. But I feel a bit better now that my checklist has fewer than 50 items on it…

Post # 7
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Ha ha! Just seen peachacid’s response. So much better than mine.

Booze is your friend…..

Post # 8
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7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s like permanent PMS. I recommend a set amount of allowed self pity, followed by a perspective check, followed by attitude adjustment centered in The Big Picture. You’re marrying the person you love the most. Thats all. The rest is a distraction. 

but don’t short change yourself on the limited pity party:-) it’s tough going, and everyone needs to vent. Journaling might help if your BFF isn’t available. Hang in there girl! You can do it. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh, honey. <3 I agree, have a glass of wine. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve had my moments, as much as I’ve tried to be calm and cool about everything…there have just been moments that have murdered my calm and then made it roll over in its grave. I just rant and rant and rant and try to move on. And have some wine.

Post # 11
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

First paragraph response (as I am also drinking wine): my best friends in the entire world are like this.  They are just NOT AVAILABLE.  It sucks sucks sucks.  But I knew that, and you knew that, and you did not know about her shite, but that’s kind of her fault for not telling you.  So don’t be upset.  Be upset that your friendship rocks.  Because even though I can’t always call my friends crying, I know that any time I see them it will be awesome, and we will have a great time, and if I need them in that moment, or need to talk about anything that has happened, they’re there. 

 

Second paragraph: Email her the nicely worded Paypal email.  Done and done.

Third paragraph: If you want some quality parent time, come to my parents’ house.  I don’t know what else to say.  =(

Fourth:  You need to have a photographer.  Can your fiance help with that?  Is there something you can sacrifice? 

Post # 12
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Overjoyed:  Yeah, you can chillax a bit now.  But make sure you get all your DIY done well in advance! I have had a HUGE DIY list, and was feeling pretty sick about it last week. But all I have to do now is the bunting, dress alterations, evening buffet, and programs. If that still sounds like a lot, you should have seen the list before! It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, but if you go for it then eventually it’s like a see saw… it slides the right way in the end.

Until it starts to slide… alcohol is your friend! I highly recommend gin and tonics… NOM NOM.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Overjoyed:  My mom will give you a hug and talk about your strengths as an amazing adult woman, sorry womyn, and will tell you that you are intelligent and interesting.  My DAD will tell you look amazing and pretty.  He will also share a beer with your fiance, but he might talk about poetry and be too esoteric…

There is always more wine. 

 

 

And seriously, we are here in NH so PM me if you REALLY need to come!!!!!! lol

Post # 15
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Overjoyed:  Sadly, they are not my strengths either, but it was a choice between spending lots of money we didn’t have, or doing it all myself. I have completed 80m of bunting so far and am rapidly losing the will to live. I would estimate that I need about another 120m at this point. Originally, I was going to do 400m, but that is not happening now. The great thing about being so close to the wedding is that you look at that list, which contains all this stuff you just had to have, and think “**** that ****”. If I can’t eat it, drink it, or at the very least play with it in an amusing fashion, we aren’t having it! Time has a great way of making you prioritise…

But yes… the crazy hits us all at some point…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh man I didn’t even know I CARED about 90% of the stuff that now to me is ‘ERMAGERD serious bizniss!’. I find myself stressing about shiz that probably won’t even happen on my wedding day! And I’m pretty sure if it does, I won’t care. I concur with letting yourself pity part, having a few glasses of wine (and then pass me the bottle), and making decisions with a clear head.

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