- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Hi Ladies!!!! Well, Its been a week and a day since I became a Mrs! Its been great! I want to recap my experience!
Friday Night (Rehersal Night):
Well we got to our venue early to decorate! It was: Me, Hubby, my mom & dad, brother and his Fiance…. we started decorating, which was taking forever! Mother-In-Law shows up; with fake ferns and a fern holder. Asks where I want them; I said outside….. ok after those words she spoke NO OTHER WORDS to me that day period! She sat under the stairs making HIDEOUS fern like plants out of fake ferns and purple flowers?! (Our colors were brown, green, and pink) Skip forward to rehersal. I get there and greet everyone…. I had 3 friends from TN come to be in my bridal party; DH’s friends wouldn’t even speak to them! Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law sat in chairs in the back and spoke to one of our ushers the entire rehersal and never participated, said anything to us. As soon as it was over, we had more decorating to do… what do they do… take everyone to the place for rehersal dinner and leave me and my family to decorate. When I get there they are eating without me!!!!! They wouldnt even let me sit by DH?!?!?! Well my mother was outraged to begin with the Mother-In-Law didnt even lift a finger to help anyone decorate or do anything… then Mother-In-Law had reserved this “awesome” place for dinner… it was a huge white room with a bar, no decorations NOTHING! So they dont speak to me anymore that night. All the while Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law (on DH’s side) sit with horrible looks on their faces! (their wedding is end of October and the ENTIRE week before our wedding were calling and sending messages about their wedding stuff the doesn’t start til end of Aug) soooo bad rehersal night in my book…… now to wedding day
Pictures were first… they were great! All cept Future Sister-In-Law (DHs side) wanted her hair to be her bridal trial when I ask they do something simple because mine was NOT that fancy! So anywho…. ceremony went awesome! My dad and daughter walked me down the aisle…. it was great! Rained not 30 seconds after we walked in the door to start and quit befoer the end of the ceremony! It was awesome… now the bad part! Reception
Ok… well to begin it all went great. We knew DH’s family and friends wanted the beer to begin immediatly. I kindly ask it wait til after dinner, our toast and dance so my great grandmother and some close family could see it before leaving. They are very against alcohol and left as soon as it began! So… as soon as dinner is done I find my groomsmen down at the bar wiht full glasses as Im trying to begin our toast?! So my mother walks downstairs and says “Guys can ya put down your beer, its time to toast and the bar isnt suppose to be open quite yet. You can come back in a bit and get your beer” – one guy asked what we were toasting with then.. we said Wine he said Oh ok… puts beer down and goes upstairs…. BIL (DH’s TWIN BROTHER! and BEST MAN) at first ignores my mother… then my mom says his name and asked nicely if he would please leave his beer out of respect for my 94yr old grandmother and go up for the toast please… he follows with “Your fucking ridiculous” and pushes past her…. My mother does NOT take this well at all!!! So.. upstairs she tells me what happens, then walks over to BIL and says… “BIL, I’m sorry if I upset you. Im just trying to let “Emersynsmommy’s” grandmother see her toast and dance before she leaves and she is 94 and at doesnt like the alcohol etc.” He in turn starts to MOCK her!!!!! This is when I jump in a say “BIL; We are not here for the beer, if you can not wait 10minutes to get a beer then your not here for your brother and my wedding and you can leave, you pick” well he stays and is pissy until he gets drunk….. so hard liquor is NOT ALLOWED at all in our facility! We let Father-In-Law know this ahead of time because he planned to sneak in a small bar…. he SWORE to my face that he would not do this… so what do we find out… MIL’s brother (the caterer) has snuck in a CASE of very small bottles of whiskey into the kitchen adn they’re passing them out to their friends! Had they been caught it was a $500 fine PER DRINK MADE!!!!! This I am IRATE about! Ok so entire end of reception… my mother misses because NOONE from DH’s family is willing to help her at all and she was busy filling our candy buffett, etc., the she has arthritis and falls down our stairs because her knee locked up! I felt HORRIBLE for my mother and my heart is broke for her! I wish I would have been aware of how much she was missing of my reception! Well the night progresses…. Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law are DRUNK…. Father-In-Law is downstairs mingling with his friends… Mother-In-Law gets on a table and grinds her ass onto one of her male friends?!?!?!?!??!?! WHAT!!!!! People were about to die! She was grinding on everyone! Not only do they have 3 sets of friends in attendance, they all sat in different corners of the room and would not speak to the other groups?!? Very very odd! The house manager comes to me and my mother and appologizes for the amount of work my mother has done, and says how disrespectful and embarrassing Dh’s family is! So receptions ends…..
Not ONE of our groomsmen stayed to help clean up! I had 1 of my bridesmaids helps, 2 left early to drive the 8hrs back to TN, one left for Florida, One has a 2mo old so she was totally excused to go feed him and the other is Future Sister-In-Law (on DHs side)… NO ONE stayed to help! Downstairs Father-In-Law & Mother-In-Law are loading only the VERY few items that are theirs; not helping us at all. Upstairs is my parents, brother, Future Sister-In-Law, 68yr old gma with parkinsons, and me. Darling Husband was helping our DJ…… My mother loudly expresses her annoyance with the lack of respect my family was shown…. Father-In-Law runs upstairs yelling someone tell him what to do… BLAH BLAH, he gets loud so Darling Husband blames it on himself for not asking enough people to help *NOT DH’s FAULT AT ALL* my brothers Fiance (21yrs old) says loudly,.. ” GUYS dont fight this is crazy” Father-In-Law gets right up in her face yelling ” WELL G.D. some one tell me what the fuck to do and I might do it I duno what to do this is ridiculous… so on” Future Sister-In-Law leaves VERY upset…. we get all items downstairs… I walk out to hear Mother-In-Law tell Father-In-Law who was honestly trying to help at that point this. ” They have everything down stairs we are NOT staying to help them load it, we have friends waiting on us?!” What?! We HAD to be out that night and were paying by the hour!!!!! So I take Darling Husband to get his truck because he had drank a little… outside the hotel Father-In-Law corners me appologizing what I thought was sincere applologies (I later find out he had snuck in the liqour) during this I cry because I’m explaining why I’m upset and about my mother missing alot of it because no one helped her… Mother-In-Law walks up to Father-In-Law grabs his arm and says “FIL, Come on dont waste your time talking to her we have a party to get to” and walks off!!!!!!! She is SOOOOO lucky I was upset and not mad at that point or I prolly would ahve HIT her!!!! After that things cooled down because IL’s were in their rooms away from us…. however my family feels VERY VERY VERY disrespected… I feel extremely disrespected, I feel like half my wedding was ruined. I bearly saw my husband in the reception because he was off talking to friends and didnt keep me close. I was helping my mom with things and greeting people myself and taking care of my daughter who we later found out had a ruptured ear drum and double ear infection! so she was very very clingy to me……
Darling Husband just says ” well what do you want me to do now… yelling at them wont fix it” but I feel like something should be said. I know I cant redo it at all but that was MY wedding and I feel like it was ruined and I cant get that back. Darling Husband and I have worked out my disgust with his lack of consideration for me at our reception…. Im at a loss and feel like I should be given an applogy and so should my parents! I’m deeply hurt that my mother missed what she did because she felt like she had to work the whole reception to make it perfect for me…. that I was sooo disrespected and lied to that my mother was yelled at and my family disrespected me!!!!! Im just lost at what to do… but I want them to know my disgust with their actions!!!! Any advice ladies?!?!!
On a better note… our honeymoon was amazing and I’m hoping to post pics soon!!!! Anyone shopping for a honeymoon local…. Couples Tower Isle in Jamaica is absolutely AMAZING!!!