Yay or Nay??

posted 3 years ago in Decor
  • poll: Am I right to feel offended that they're selling the gift I bought them for top dollar?
    yes : (54 votes)
    75 %
    no : (18 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 4
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I do think it is very rude. You have every right to be pissed. 

    Post # 5
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    i’d be pretty annoyed.  You’d think that if they were going to sell wedding gifts that were expensive (and they probably registered for?) they’d be a little more tacful about it/try and make sure the gifters didn’t know…

    Post # 8
    42117 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d probably be upset, but ony because I was taking it personally that they didn’t like what I gave them.

    The reality is they either got things they didn’t want, or they have since changed their mind about their lifestyle and know that they will never use these things.

    There is no obigation on the recipient of a gift to keep it forever. I would much rather they sell it and get something they will use.

    Post # 9
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would feel the same…doesn’t make it right though.

    In the end they belong to the couple and they can do as they please with them.


    Post # 10
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @littleG:  were these items that she registered for?  do you think that maybe she got duplicates?

    i would feel a bit offended but i wouldn’t let it bother me too much.  i would just imagine that she got duplicates and she is selling someone else’s gift and not mine.  this thought might make you feel better.

    Post # 11
    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Hopefully she had a good reason like they got duplicates of those pieces. I would at least try harder to make sure the gift-giver doesn’t know, because that is rude to let someone know. 

    ETA: definately rude to put it on facebook where guests can see!

    Post # 12
    1164 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’d be a little annoyed. Seems weird that she’s selling stuff off so soon. Was this something on her registry or just something nice you picked out?

    Post # 13
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @littleG:  she could have been a little more discreet about selling these items.

    Post # 14
    10899 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Well, you may not have all of the pertinent information.  Perhaps the couple is indeed “strapped” for cash, but no one would ever know it.  Perhaps the couple received duplicate items, and she is selling a different item than the one you gave to her. I would try to be careful not to make judgments about something that you may not know for certain.

    Post # 15
    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Wow…That’s awful. It would’ve been far better for her to discreetly return it to the store for a credit. People return gifts all the time–that’s not rude. Being so public about it is the rude part. 

    That said–you don’t know why she sold it. She might have received more than one of the item you purchased for her. My sister got TONS of duplicates on her wedding gifts. Her guests bought the items she wanted, but not off the registry–so more than one guest bought them, thinking those items weren’t purchased yet. 

    And BTW–no one really knows a couple’s finances but the couple. They may actually be in more financial trouble than you know (people don’t talk about that with friends usually). I have friends who seem flush–but they have HUGE student loan debts, child support payments, went upside-down on a house and/or other things that most of their other friends don’t know about. 

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