Post # 1
I have a friend who has put up on a selling website (like ebay) a few expensive pieces of crystal things like vases and glasses that she received as gifts for her wedding 18 months ago. one of these items was the gift I bought them, and the asking price is exact rrp!!
I know for a fact they’re not strapped for cash and I understand that if she’s not going to use them it makes sense to sell them but I can’t help to feel weird about it.
Post # 3
PS I don’t know how my post came up in decor, should be in etiquette
Post # 4
I do think it is very rude. You have every right to be pissed.
Post # 5
i’d be pretty annoyed. You’d think that if they were going to sell wedding gifts that were expensive (and they probably registered for?) they’d be a little more tacful about it/try and make sure the gifters didn’t know…
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: exactly! And she posted on Facebook all of her ads so everyone could see and hopefully draw in buyers! Why not just keep it discreet. No shame.
Post # 7
@inukoro1177: It just irks me. Doesn’t feel right.
Post # 8
I’d probably be upset, but ony because I was taking it personally that they didn’t like what I gave them.
The reality is they either got things they didn’t want, or they have since changed their mind about their lifestyle and know that they will never use these things.
There is no obigation on the recipient of a gift to keep it forever. I would much rather they sell it and get something they will use.
Post # 9
I would feel the same…doesn’t make it right though.
In the end they belong to the couple and they can do as they please with them.
Post # 10
@littleG: were these items that she registered for? do you think that maybe she got duplicates?
i would feel a bit offended but i wouldn’t let it bother me too much. i would just imagine that she got duplicates and she is selling someone else’s gift and not mine. this thought might make you feel better.
Post # 11
Hopefully she had a good reason like they got duplicates of those pieces. I would at least try harder to make sure the gift-giver doesn’t know, because that is rude to let someone know.
ETA: definately rude to put it on facebook where guests can see!
Post # 12
I’d be a little annoyed. Seems weird that she’s selling stuff off so soon. Was this something on her registry or just something nice you picked out?
Post # 13
@littleG: she could have been a little more discreet about selling these items.
Post # 14
Well, you may not have all of the pertinent information. Perhaps the couple is indeed “strapped” for cash, but no one would ever know it. Perhaps the couple received duplicate items, and she is selling a different item than the one you gave to her. I would try to be careful not to make judgments about something that you may not know for certain.
Post # 15
Wow…That’s awful. It would’ve been far better for her to discreetly return it to the store for a credit. People return gifts all the time–that’s not rude. Being so public about it is the rude part.
That said–you don’t know why she sold it. She might have received more than one of the item you purchased for her. My sister got TONS of duplicates on her wedding gifts. Her guests bought the items she wanted, but not off the registry–so more than one guest bought them, thinking those items weren’t purchased yet.
And BTW–no one really knows a couple’s finances but the couple. They may actually be in more financial trouble than you know (people don’t talk about that with friends usually). I have friends who seem flush–but they have HUGE student loan debts, child support payments, went upside-down on a house and/or other things that most of their other friends don’t know about.
Post # 16
In terms of their financial situation you may all be right, its just that she is always bragging about spending big and holidays here there and everywhere so I am assuming that money is not the issue. It may well be. Who knows.
I totally agree that once it is theirs they can do what ever they please with it, my issue is with how blatently obvious it was!! Especially with putting the link up on facebook and telling everyone to have a look at what she has for sale. The other thing is how she has explicitly in the description ‘was a wedding gift but its not needed’. And yes, it was on their registry and once that item is sold then it gets taken off the registry list.
All of that aside, I do agree that they can do what they llike with it (duh – it is their property), I guess I am just more offended that she asked for it, we bought it (spent good money on it thinking they’ll love it), and then next thing you know she has it online to sell for the original price!!