Yay or Nay. Use a ring an ex gave you?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think it totally depends on the ex and how things ended. If it was a mutual parting on reasonably good terms that would be different from a difficult break up.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

 

Sporty-Bee:  One of my friends recently saw an ex of her and he was wearing a ring she had bought him, and was totally tripped out by it. She took it as a sign that he still wanted to be with her. They had a bad split though, and she cannot stand him now. So I guess it might depend on how you guys left the relationship. I probably wouldn’t wear it personally though.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Sporty-Bee:  It really depends on how the relationship ended. If it was mutual and friendly, I think you should offer to give the ring back (unless you bought it yourself). 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

Eh. I ended up selling my ring from my ex. I felt weird about wearing it after we broke up, since it was bought with the intention of being an enegagement ring. I also didn’t like it very much, so I wasn’t heartbroken about selling it. I had a friend who’s son was looking for a ring to give his girlfriend, and he was more than happy to get a great deal by buying mine. (it was small enough to be appropriate for a high school promise ring).

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Sporty-Bee:  If you have permission to keep it, I’d probably keep it in a jewlery box for memory’s sake, but I wouldn’t wear it. I could see resetting a diamond into something fun though.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

Sporty-Bee:  Exactly! It sat in a box for a couple of years until the opportunity presented itself to make some money. Haha. I didn’t want to just throw it away, but I knew I was never going to wear it and it was far too small to reset the stones in something else.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

A silly fun piece of jewelry I would wear. I have a cute beaded bracelet my ex gave me that I still wear sometimes. However, some jewelry is relationship jewelry. I don’t wear the heart pendant or amythest earrings he gave me. If (god forbid) SO and I broke up now, I would not wear the tiffany necklace he gave me

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Sporty-Bee:  I think it’s one of those things where different people have very different ideas and attachments to material objects. If you’re a person who can look at the object and disregard any negative associations with the person who gave it to you, then you should do what you like with it (as long as your SO isn’t incredibly sensitive and hurt about it.) If you’re the kind of person who can’t disassociate the negative stuff, then either get rid of the item entirely or have it altered into something new. I don’t think either method is “right” or “wrong,” you know? Do what works for you.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

A diamond is a diamond. Most likely, I’d have it re-set if it was of good quality. If, theoretically, it was an exceptionally traumatic relationship and a poor quality, cheap diamond, I’d probably be tempted to throw the ring away out of spite

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I kept my e-ring from my ex husband.  I am going to give it to our daughter when she is old enough.  I don’t think I would really use it for myself though.

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