Post # 1
Ok, well, not the talk, TALK, but we did make some major progress.
I have been dating my Boyfriend or Best Friend for almost a year and a half, and I have always known that he has felt very strongly about living together before getting engaged/married.
Well last night he said he had a “serious” question to ask me, and he asked me how I felt about moving in with him. He said he was a little nervous about asking me because he didn’t know if I wanted to move in to his current house (he can’t move for about 5 years because of the market). He knows I’m not fond of his house (only because it’s a total bachelor pad with no style and comfort) but he said it would become “our house” and we could totally redo everything. He said he knows how important it is to me to make my space a home, and he said we can start from scratch and make it ours.
I told him, “he better know for sure what he wants because if I’m moving in, I’m not moving out.” lol He said he knew it was a big commitment, but that it was the next step and that he’s been ready for it for a while. Then he started saying a lot of things like, “And you know if we ever get married…” “If we decide we want to get married…” and things like that. This is so exciting to me because we’re taking the next step! He has only lived with one other female and that was his ex-wife.
Anyway, I’m excited!!
Post # 3
WOW! Thats so exciting!! I think its important to live with your SO before you get married. Even though technically Im not doing it because my fam is really conservative and I dont want to start off our marriage with an angry family…haha. Teddy sleeps at my house (I own it) probably 6 out of 7 nights so we practically live together anyways. Congrats and start thinking of paint colors and furniture and such! its so much fun!
Post # 4
Congrats! How exciting! Enjoy the adventure, and you’ll have fun putting your own stamp on his place! Yay!
Post # 5
congrats it’s a step in the right direction.as a waiting bee who lives with their so(his home) & lvinfg it i’l however advise that you guys evalute ur relationship n start talking about becoming engaged/married.dont kn the time frame u might consider 1 yr or 2.it is esential that u guys are on the same page and agree to these terms.if after that period u guys are not ready or maybe one person isnt for whatever reason at least u r not blindsided. good luck & enjoy cohabiting if u so decide.
it actually is amazing living togther.
Post # 6
Congrats on taking such a big step! That’s great!
Post # 7
So exciting! I hope you have lots of fun decorating!
Post # 8
Yep decorating is half the fun! Enjoy this new step in life together and congrats! But do make sure at some point to have the entire talk, as knowing if you’re both going down the same life paths is important.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies, I am so excited! We have a lot of the same tastes when it comes to decoration and I know we will have a blast making it “our place.”
I feel like this is the beginning of the life I’ve always wanted!
@bird, I agree with you. I have heard a few stories on here about some bees who have been living with their SO a few years and feel like it’s not going anywhere. We will have to talk about what out expectations are 1yr from now, 2years, 3years, etc… I don’t want to be on that waiting list forever! 😉
Post # 10
The only thing I really worry about is adapting to eachothers quirks. I have never lived with a boyfriend before, and I currently live alone which I LOVE. I LOVE my personal space, and the fact that I can do whatever, whenever whitout consulting someone (specifically speaking about decorating my apartment or changing things). My Boyfriend or Best Friend has pack rat tendencies, and I hate junk or clutter. If I’m not using it, I give it away, sell it, or throw it away–he can’t do that. So, I’m just a little worried with adapting to that. I know that’s part of the package when you take that step with someone, but I know it will be a challenge for me and I don’t want it to reflect on my relationship. Anyone have challenges like that when they moved in with their SO?