Yelled at his Ex

posted 4 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’m sorry you have to deal with that… she sounds crazy

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

wow. she sounds terrible. I’m sorry you guys have to deal with that. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Refuse to discuss custody or child support except through your lawyer.  If she is going to play nasty, fight fire with fire.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I get your upset but I think she’s not ‘crazy’ but mentally disturbed and needs serious medical help

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

jannigirl :  Oh I totally agree and not trying to minimalise anything you or your DH have been through. I just hate labelling genuinely mentally ill people who need help as ‘crazy’.

Anyway, I agree you need a lawyer and to speak through them

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I would get a lawyer and have a court ordered custody agreement drawn out. She’s definitely playing out something right now…We all snap, it’s hard to be 100% calm and cool. 

Im sorry bee. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

The word is mentally I’ll, not crazy… If you want sympathy here you might want to stop calling someone who clearly has serious mental issues “crazy”. That’s just plain rude. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

jannigirl :  I feel you, and yes you can call her crazy.

Have sort of the same situation. We have 50/50 custody with with my FI and his ex. We end up taking care of the girls one way or another than she does. Ignores them the whole time when she does have them and puts her bf (the one that she cheated on my FI with, and someone that had previously broken up another marriage). Then when things get hot, she spends thousands on trips and gifts for the girls to make up for her lack of caring and attention. The girls are still young and do not need to know the viper that their mom really is, whenever they don’t do or get something, she shifts the blame and says “it’s because of your father”. It’s infuriating, because the truth is that she either doesn’t want to do something and assume responsibility, or does not want to be with the girls. I just hope that overtime they’ll see the truth, or maybe when adults we can have a conversation. We know that we cannot mar their image or say certain things, after all she is their mother and they do love her. It’s frustrating…

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

jannigirl :  Its not even your place to get involved with talking about child support with her or arranging custody stuff, it’s the responsibility of your DH. If you can’t deal with her, you don’t have to.

And Yes, making fun of the fact that she “went off the deep end” and had to check into an inpatient mental health program is fucking rude, disrespectful and plain ignorant. For clarification on how wrong it is, it is equivalent to calling someone with special needs “retarded”, you wouldn’t do that, would you?

Lots of people have to deal with “crazy” exes, but if she has legitimate mental health issues you instantly lose the right to call her crazy, because in doing so you are disrespecting all those who live with mental health issues. And the fact that you just plain make fun of her for it? Unbelievable. 

You two need to get your stuff sorted out for the sake of the kids involved, it’s not about you anymore, kids come first, period. This all sounds like two women trying to take control at the expense of the kids.

You need to go to mediation.

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why are you arranging where the kids go? Why is this discussion not going on between her and the kids father? 

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