(Closed) Yep, Another He Cheated Post. Long

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Ditch the prostitute using scum bag : (406 votes)
    87 %
    Work it out. It was only hand jobs : (9 votes)
    2 %
    See what happens after more therapy : (49 votes)
    11 %
    Something else? explain : (1 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1342 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @oldrockingchair:  Honestly, I’d get out.  And get out now.  Lots of hugs to you.  

    Post # 4
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    5968 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Answer one question.

    do you love this man?  

    If yes, you stay, you work through it and hopefully come out the other end stronger than before.

    If not, pack up, hit the ground running, the love of your life is waiting on you and you’re late!

    either way, it’s about what YOU want and nothing else.

    take care baby, you deserve only the best.

    Post # 5
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    4036 posts
    Honey bee

    @oldrockingchair:  Wow. Um given that you two tried counseling and that did not save the relationship and that you have held up your end of the relationship committment (i.e., trying counseling, being faithful, etc)…I would honestly move on. I know it will be difficult given how long you have been in your relationship, but he has shown time and time again that he does not love and respect you enough to be faithful.

    ETA: The truth is that while you may love him, do you think that he really loves you back equally?

    Post # 6
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    3583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No. Just…no.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Well I think my opinion depends on your feelings about it. From your post I get the impression you could almost forgive him for the cheating if he hadn’t lied about it and given you an infection while he was at it. I say go to counselling. 

    I would personally be out of there. What happens when I can’t have sex while I’m pregnant, or if I’m depressed, or sick? Is he going to cheat on me then too? I wouldn’t marry someone who would do that to me.

    Post # 8
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    2420 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Honestly, I think it is best to move on. You said yourself you don’t know that you could trust him fully. Trust has to be the most important thing in a relationship. I think you should leave him and realize YOUR worth. If you stay, everytime things get rough or you fights there will ALWAYS be that little voice in the back of your head that wonders where he is when he isn’t with you.

     

    Post # 9
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Yuck.  Leave this guy, he put himself, his relationship, and YOU at risk through his actions, not to mention lying about it this entire time.  Your pros and cons are right, but the pros list to breaking up is incomplete if you don’t add the cons of fixing it.  So your real pros list should be Not being with a cheater, punishing him, finding someone else, AND not feeling like a push over, learning to trust someone again fully, and recognizing your self worth.

    Post # 10
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    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Cheated repeatedly, lied about it, and gave you an infection?

    Buh-bye.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2840 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would walk away and never look back. So sorry this happened to you.

    Post # 12
    Member
    12833 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would get out, only because this is a repeated situation AND he put you at risk.  If it had only happened once and he confessed, I may have been more inclined to suggest counseling and trying to work it out, but he continued to go back to a “happy endings” massage knowing it was going to end up with him cheating.  To me, that is the unforgiveable act.  Once is maybe, maybe, forgiveable.  Multiple times and endangering your health with something that takes months to clear up…no second changes there. 

    Post # 13
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    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    okay this is a REALLY stupid question, and I’m sure I sound totally ignorant… but can you seriously get a disease just from hand jobs?… I donno… that’s the part that seems iffy to me.

    Post # 14
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    2448 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Leave. Guys who use prostitutes (no offense to the ladies that are just doing their jobs!) because they’re not getting any at home are scumbags.

    Post # 15
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    1895 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    LEAVE NOW. FAST!!! He cheated on you. Thats one thing on its own. BUT he cheated on you got an STD, then lied about it, put you at risk, AND THEN PASSED IT ON TO YOU!!!

    Sex was more important to him, then your health was. I would leave, like yesterday. And i wouldnt look back

    Post # 16
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    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Love is never enough to make a relationship work.  And you can love the wrong person.

    So that leaves you mutual interests.  Not going to work!

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