Post # 1
Hi all. Since the last time I posted here my SO and I have had some good conversations about engagement and marriage. He knows I am afraid that we won’t be able to get married next summer as we planned, because we have waiting too long to get engaged. I feel like we missed the boat in a way because not only is it too late to have an engagement party (which I really wanted), but he just got laid off 🙁 SO is optimistic though (they might need him back) and said that his layoff will not effect us getting engaged at all. He seems pretty sure about that, so maybe that means he has a plan?
He did tell me it would be before August. I should be ecstatic! But I’m afraid he’s going to wait until the very last minute, and I just can’t wait anymore. I don’t want to be resentful of not having a long engagement, or having to wait another year to get married, and not being able to have an e-party. His mom has started referring to me and introducing me as “my hopefully future daughter in law…hopefully…” I was very upset last weekend because we planned to have a fun day alone together – which we did, and it was great – but I was sort of expecting it then. Damn expectations! Every day I walk in the door after work I just wish and pray that he will be there down on one knee…but that hasn’t happened yet 🙁 Whenever I mention rings he’ll tell me, “Don’t worry, maybe it’s taken care of already…” but then when I really prod him about it, I REALLY get the feeling that he has NOT gotten a ring at all. If that’s the case, it’s going to be awhile. And no, it’s not about the money. He did tell me that he didn’t want to “settle” on a ring for me. Could the ring be more about him than me?
Well anyway, a couple of weeks ago we Chinese food with my parents and when I opened up my fortune cookie, it said: “You are offered the dream of a lifetime. Say yes!” I think my eyes bulges out of my head like a cartoon! I read it out loud and my parents just looked at each other and at my SO with hopefull looks lol.
And ogling pretty pretty rings online does not help… like this one:
Here’s to hoping for my happy ending to the waiting game soon.
Post # 3
I’m pretty much in the situation you are except for the ring thing. My guy is King Procrastinator, and even though he said August or before then…he’s definitely waiting til the last, last minute in August.
How frustrating! :/
I think it’s great that he’s determined that his unemployment won’t affect you getting engaged. It’s sweet!
I hope it happens for you soon! <3
Post # 4
That ring is pretty but I think it would look Gorgeous if were on your finger. 🙂 The whole thing sounds promising. While I don’t subscribe to any hoodoo or lucky charms, I do think the universe has a funny way of watching our back sometimes. Maybe his mom will keep nudging him in the right direction. Good luck!
Post # 5
I have a funny story about a fortune cookie once. I had had a bad breakup with a boyfriend and became kind of hermit. My friends kept trying to get me to go out and live a little with them but I always turned them down. One night I finally relented. And ran into a guy I sort of knew and we started talking. I liked him a lot but I didn’t get his number and didn’t know how to get a hold of him.
So more nights of being a hermit and my roommate convinced me to have some take out chinese with some other friends and then go out with them later. My cookie said “A change of routine wworks wonders for you. Don’t be surprised when a random conversation brings success.”
So we go out to a bar we’ve never been to before. And I go to the bathroom right when we get there. There’s a table of guys sitting right there and a couple of them are staring at me. So I decide to be the “sexy stranger” and talk to them which is something I’d NEVER do otherwise. I’m talking to one cute guy in particular and we start talking about where we’re from etc. Turns out he’s the COUSIN to the guy I really liked. I begged hiim to call him up and have him meet us. And I ended up dating him for a while. We didn’t work out but we are still friends.
So I know that’s a long story lol but I’m just trying to confirm that sometimes chinese fortune cookies can tell you what to look for. GL with your fortune!
Post # 6
I think if he’s having “ring talk” with you, and even mentioned that he didn’t want to settle on a ring, he’s definitely taking it seriously. My guess would be that he wants it to be perfect. I know my FI told me he felt a lot of pressure to make the proposal perfect because of all the stories you hear about these romantic fancy candlelit million dollar proposals. AND he knows that as soon as you’re engaged, you’ll get swamped with people saying, “let’s see that ring!” … I can imagine that’s a little nervewracking for him as well.
I wish I had more answers for you, but all I can say is hang in there! I know that anxious feeling and it is absolute torment. From the sounds of it, you’ll be sportin’ that bling pretty soon! 🙂
ps. I love that ring.