Yes, I will wait untll you're married to have a child….WTF?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8588 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Eh.. it’s pretty normal for people to say one thing and do another. I mean.. look at smokers! They will tell their children it’s not okay while lighting up another cancer stick.

Post # 4
3672 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@waddle:  Maybe that just came out wrong and not how she intended. If you haven’t had issues with her before then I would let this roll off your back because it sounds like a weird slip of the tongue. Maybe she meant to say wait until YOU are married but was too embarrassed to fix it or didn’t realize she mixed up me and you. I make these mistakes all the time! 

Post # 5
7577 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s weird. It sounds like she’s having trouble with the expectations she’s set for herself like wanting to be married. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 6
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow…that’s an extremely rude thing for her to say or even think.  I really don’t understand some people.

Post # 8
7778 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

No excuse, but my guess is tht she’s planning to get married  later this year or in the not too distant future, and she got nervous that the attention would be on a new baby instead of on her wedding.

Post # 9
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds perhaps like she isn’t pleased with the lack of progress with her boyfriend?

Post # 10
7885 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t know maybe she was thrown by your comment of I’m not pregnant. It could have come off like you thought she would have a problem with you being pregnant. Maybe her response was a silly comeback/ a jab at you for your comment?


Post # 11
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@waddle:  Well if she did mean it, tough shit.  I don’t imagine you should plan your life around her potential marriage.

Post # 12
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@waddle:  I just posted a reply on another thread where a Bee feels like she can’t get engaged for THREE years so that her recently engaged FBIL and his FI can “have their time.”  

This idea some people have that the people around them have to put their own lives on hold for them and their events just absolutely floors me.  

The entitlement, pettiness and childishness is breathtaking.  

Post # 13
9563 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eh, she didn’t say anything in her own. She was responding to your comment. Probably just caught off gaurd. And it’s not like you’re actually pregnant. No need to get upset or pissy about a comment that doesn’t even really affect you right now. If you get preggers or start trying and she raises hell? That’s another story. But I think it was just a weird off hand comment. Don’t make it a big thing.

Post # 14
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@waddle:  to me, it sounds like she was making a nervous joke about how she doesn’t want you to get “too far ahead” of her. only you know her tone/personality but I wouldn’t be upset by this! 

Post # 15
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@waddle:  I say get pregnant and be as big as a house in her wedding party. Sounds like she’s just being selfish! — I think she doesn’t want a pregnant person spoiling her BM lineup.

Post # 16
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

To me it sounds like she doesn’t want you to have the full package before she does, some people would feel it looks bad if you were married and had kids while she only just had kids… I’d just take a mental note of this for when you actually do get pregnant if she is not married at that point, that is when it’ll all come out as to whether or not it was just a joke.

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