(Closed) Yes mom, I can handle a baby… uggghhh!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your last sentence is EXACTLY what I was going to say before I even read that part! She probably wanted to be the first to watch her overnight and is taking it out on you. And as a pregnant women I totally understand you being super frustrated by it, just because it seems like everyone in the freaking world has comments and judgements about our impending parenthood, and usually when I end up losing it and in tears over a comment it’s something coming from my mom or Darling Husband – usually it’s something that might not be a big deal on it’s own, but since their opinion is important to me, I’m already hormonal and over-sensitive, and they’re kind of a safe person to lose it on….that is what happens.

Post # 4
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@amw511s:  UGHHH. So with you on being over the unsolicited advice! It’s like everyone loses their filter once they realize you’re pregnant and there is pretty much nothing else more obnoxious to me right now. 


Sorry about your mom, but part of me almost wonders if it’s less about her not thinking you’re capable and more about being jealous that you get to watch the baby overnight before she does? That would make it a little better in my head, at least. lol 

ETA: Whoops. Guess I didn’t read your last sentence where you stated pretty much exactly what I was guessing at above. =P

Post # 5
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My mom had the same reaction when we told her we were getting a DOG. “Really? You’re getting a dog? Aren’t you too busy for that? You realize they’re a lot of work, right?” I can’t even imagine what she’ll be like when we’re put in this situation, or have kids. /eyeroll

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I think you’re right about her being jealous that they didn’t ask her… and honestly, it sounds like she wants to be “needed.” I don’t know if you’ll ever get her off your back because, well, she’s your mom, but I would at least express to her how it makes you feel when she says stuff like that. 

Post # 6
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree…. she just wanted to watch her first.

And I HATE getting advice! I’m due in July and I hate that when I rub my back someone says,  “Just wait it will get worse..” Or “Get all the sleep you can now!” SHUT UP!!!

Enough about me… I would try to ignore your mom and enjoy watching the baby. Darling Husband and I had our friend’s 3 month old overnight last year and boy was that a crash course in having a baby!!! I was up every few hours to feed her. After her mom picked her up we slept for like 6 hours!!!lol…

Post # 7
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

honestly i agree with you.. your mom is obviously put out that she wasnt asked.. she even said it herself “even i havent looked after her over night…” i think she was really wanting you to say, “mom why dont you look after her over night”. i dont think it is about you at all.. its really about her. And i dont think she meant to criticize you, but was probably hurt that she wasnt asked first. 

Ohh and i oly just read what the other posters had written.. so i think we all agree. not at all about your parenting skills but rather the fact tht she wast asked first..

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