(Closed) Yes we got engaged “young”. NO! I’m not pregnant!

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband and I were pretty much the same as you.  My husband and I were 21/22 when we got married, got engaged on my 19th birthday and we lived together for 2 years before getting married.  I hate how people assume that you are knocked up just because you are getting married young!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i dont think that is that young.  At 22 you are usually done with college and are able to work full time.  Many couples wait until they are done with college to get married which is about 22 years old.  My FI and I were 24 when we got married.  I didnt think that was young at all.  We are both independent and finacially secure.  24 is only one year older than your FI will be. I think 18 -20 is young.  But everyone has different ideas I suppose.

Post # 6
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think that sounds too young, I opened this post thinking you where going to say you where 18. I think you are certainly old enough to get married. 

Post # 8
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360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

I hate people assuming that. Thankfully, us having an 11 month engagement has quelled most of the knocked up comments. Yet there always seems to be those people that just jump to conclusions anyway….

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Well be 22/21 when we get married. I’m graduated, he’ll have another 1.5 years of schooling, but we’re perfectly capable of marriage. No one has told us that we’re too young, but then again, we’re the only ones out of our social circles that is in a stable, long-term relationship that AREN’T married. Different perspectives, I guess.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I get this question all the time. The pregnancy question, that is. It really bothers me that people assume such a thing. I know it’s happening more and more often, but don’t be so quick and hasty to judge us.  Can’t people just be happy?

Post # 11
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I get the opposite reaction, I get the “it’s about time”.  I didn’t realize 30 was so old.

Post # 12
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

In my opinion, people are way to forward with marital advice as well as baby advice. Im not sure why its anyones business when someone gets married. We are going to be 25 and 29 and my mom thinks were “ruhsing into it” even though we are having a 2 year engagement. Wheres the logic there? lol

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am 24 and got the “It’s about time comments”. We have dated for over 7 years. I am tired of people thinking that we are going to TTC as soon as we are married. People are always going to make assumptions. I think it will be something we can laugh at in the future.

Post # 14
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1124 posts
Bumble bee

I’m 22 and my future husband is 28. When he told his family he was engaged several of them asked if I was pregnant, which I certainly am not. Some still joke about it out in the open… ha…ha… so funny. My family didn’t ask or hint at it! Now when his family asks for a wedding date we tell them “it’ll be at least a year” so they know it isn’t an oh-no-she’s-pregnant-shotgun-wedding. It didn’t occur to me that people would just assume I’m pregnant!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I went through almost the EXACT same thing as you. When we were married I was 22, and my DH was 23. I had to go through some red tape for us being different religions (long story). When the pastor that married us found out my husband is in the military, he immediately asked how long we had been together (4 years). You’ll learn to hush out the comments, trust me! You can’t get through wedding planning if you let those comments get to you. I have never been asked if I am pregnant though, but I think everyone just assumes we were getting married because he’s in the military and it seems to be the popular thing to do. He had already been in the military for 1 and 1/2 years by the time we finally tied the knot. I feel you! People are nosy and rude…

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

double post.

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