- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I don’t know about all of you, but I’ve been following this #YesAllWomen trend on Twitter in response to the Elliot Rodger massacre at UCSB. Basically, it’s a hashtag that women are using to share their experiences with misogyny, male entitlement and ultimately, sexual violence and rape. Some of the stories I’ve read have been incredibly heartbreaking, while attacks on the hashtag from men have only showed me that while most men aren’t rapists or murderers, it’s really hard for even intelligent, good men to understand what it feels like to be constantly subjected to harassment and violation based on your gender.
So, Bees, I thought we could start our own #YesAllWomen thread on here to share our experiences as women in what can sometimes be a really scary world.
I’ll start by saying that I am very lucky in that I have never been a victim of sexual violence (and it makes me really sad that I even have to write that sentence), but when I think about how misogyny has played out in my life, I think of 2 key incidents:
1. During my senior year of high school, a male friend asked me to the prom and I said yes. A few weeks later, he told me in a fit of rage and insults that he couldn’t go with me because I had told my friend that I wouldn’t have sex with him. For a life update, the last I heard, this guy is living in his mom’s basement and never goes outside.
2. During college, I was taking the train from school to the airport. I was sitting next to this older man (probably 40 or so) and when he got off, I saw him crouch down outside of the train and take a photo of me without my consent. I still cringe when I think about what he did with that photo.
So those are my two relatively minor stories. They’re minor, when I think about all the horrible things that happen to women every day, but I think they’re important because I think they can really convey to men (many of whom really want to understand) what harassment and misogyny look and feel like.
So, Bees, share your stories! And check out #YesAllWomen on Twitter if you haven’t already.