Post # 1
So my FI and I have been tirelessly searching for venues to fit our budget and the biggest budget eater is definitely the bar.
Right now it is looking like the best option for our budget is to offer the first two hours open bar (4 hour reception on a Sunday) and then go to cash bar. Is this unacceptable? Does it come across as cheap to only offer a certain amount of time payed? I just figure since it is Sunday people might not be down to drink quite at much anyway.
We plan to include that info on our invites but I’m hoping no one sticks their noses up at that! My side aren’t big drinkers anyway but his are.
Post # 2
I don’t see this as a problem, as you said it’s a Sunday wedding so I doubt anyone will be looking to get wasted anyway. Not sure about including that info on your invites, though. I don’t think you need to warn guests since you’re starting with an open bar anyway and it’s a fairly short reception.
Post # 3
Unfathomably: I’ve been to a few weddings where the couple has set a limit with the venue. For example, they say they’ll cover $1500 and then after that, it’ll roll over to a cash bar. In my experience, it’s worked out fine. Advertise it as a cash bar, that way people will have cash handy, but then don’t make them pay until you hit that amount.
Post # 28
I personally would not be offended at all to attend a wedding reception with this kind of set up. I think it’s a great sollution to a tight budget!
Post # 28
I think that sounds great!
Post # 7
Unfathomably: I wouldn’t be offended at all. I think that sounds like a good idea!
Post # 8
While I personally wouldn’t care, it’s been beaten into me by various wedding etiquette experts that a cash bar is NEVER ok.
I’ve heard that a reduced selecion bar (a selection of beer/wine, maybe a “signature cocktail”) is a good etiquette and budget-friendly option.
Have a wonderful wedding, whatever you decide!
Post # 9
I am sorry but people are SO REDIC when it comes to cash bars. A wedding is about the love between two people, no one should ever be offended if your not paying for them to drink and party. They are there to be with you and celebrate the love 🙂 If you are doing an open bar for two hours that is more than enough in my opinion! 🙂
Post # 11
MangoSong: yeah, I think yours and and mine were deleted because we disagreed.
Post # 12
arosebyanyothername: I love when people pose a question and then delete the responses that don’t tell them what they want to hear.
Post # 13
Don’t do this. Host what you can afford.
Post # 14
According to etiquette one is supposed to host the affair one can afford and cash bars are never acceptable. There’s nothing wrong with cutting off the bar service after cocktail hour or two hours, providing wine or champagne toast, or no alcohol at all for that matter.
Post # 15
arosebyanyothername: Mine were deleted as well, and I was kinda in a grey area.