Yet another cash bar etiquette question…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t see this as a problem, as you said it’s a Sunday wedding so I doubt anyone will be looking to get wasted anyway. Not sure about including that info on your invites, though. I don’t think you need to warn guests since you’re starting with an open bar anyway and it’s a fairly short reception.

Post # 3
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Unfathomably:  I’ve been to a few weddings where the couple has set a limit with the venue. For example, they say they’ll cover $1500 and then after that, it’ll roll over to a cash bar. In my experience, it’s worked out fine. Advertise it as a cash bar, that way people will have cash handy, but then don’t make them pay until you hit that amount. 

Post # 28
4828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999


  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Atalanta.
Post # 28
1200 posts
Bumble bee

I personally would not be offended at all to attend a wedding reception with this kind of set up. I think it’s a great sollution to a tight budget!

Post # 28
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

I think that sounds great!

Post # 8
28 posts

While I personally wouldn’t care, it’s been beaten into me by various wedding etiquette experts that a cash bar is NEVER ok.

I’ve heard that a reduced selecion bar (a selection of beer/wine, maybe a “signature cocktail”) is a good etiquette and budget-friendly option.

Have a wonderful wedding, whatever you decide!

Post # 9
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am sorry but people are SO REDIC when it comes to cash bars. A wedding is about the love between two people, no one should ever be offended if your not paying for them to drink and party. They are there to be with you and celebrate the love 🙂 If you are doing an open bar for two hours that is more than enough in my opinion! 🙂

Post # 10
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Is my comment deleted?

Post # 12
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

arosebyanyothername:  I love when people pose a question and then delete the responses that don’t tell them what they want to hear.

Post # 13
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t do this. Host what you can afford. 

Post # 14
7923 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

According to etiquette one is supposed to host the affair one can afford and cash bars are never acceptable. There’s nothing wrong with cutting off the bar service after cocktail hour or two hours, providing wine or  champagne toast, or no alcohol at all for that matter. 

Post # 15
10500 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

arosebyanyothername:  Mine were deleted as well, and I was kinda in a grey area.

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