Yet another Facebook rant. My cousins are annoying as hell

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
3659 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How is this “misusing social media?” I guess I don’t see how this affects you in any way. If their actions bother you so much, block the remaining ones on Facebook and call it a day. You haven’t talked to your cousin in three years? Pick up the phone.

Post # 4
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@AquaGrey8962:  I think that people have always been this stupid. We just haven’t always had a public venue for them to display their stupidity (like Facebook.) I absolutely cannot stand that kind of crap. I too have family members like this and I find it hard to not saying incredibly mean things to them via the internet. To answer you question: I don’t know why people abuse social media but I kind of which they would stop.

Post # 5
11593 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, hide them or unfriend them if they bother you this much.  It’s not a hard thing to do.  Or, deactivate your own account if it causes this much stress for you.  I wouldn’t lose sleep over someone else’s trivial facebook posts.

Also, it’s not “early 1900s” for someone to suggest you call to keep in touch.  I’d rather someone call or text me than send me a facebook message asking what’s up.  I think her point is, if you really wanted to keep in touch, you’d find a way. 

Post # 6
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cmbr:  +1 

“I don’t even think people acted like this on MySpace.”  That made me LOL 

Post # 7
1715 posts
Bumble bee

@cmbr:  Exactly, I agree.


I get why some of their actions are annoying, AquaGrey8962, but a lot of what you wrote doesn’t seem like that big of a deal.

All you have to do is block them or go to their pages and deselect everything you don’t want showing up in your feed. You can even click on the top-right corner of one of their posts and select “Hide all from user” — poof, they’re gone. I’ve done this to a few people, and it works very well. 

It’s not unreasonable for your cousin to say you could call her. If you want to keep in touch with her enough that you think she shouldn’t delete her Facebook profile, calling her shouldn’t be a hassle or a chore. Phones still exist in the 21st Century, so you can use them.

Lastly, I don’t think they’re misusing social media, they’re just using it in an annoying way. I think you’re not using social media in an effective way because, like I said above, you can block them, deselect what you don’t want to see, and “Hide all from user” very easily. 

Post # 9
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AquaGrey8962:  If I was cancelling my facebook account and someone asked me if my husband was making me… I’d be one pissed woman.

Post # 11
11593 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AquaGrey8962:  I get that social media is great for staying in touch and photo sharing if both parties are interested.  Obviously if they want to deactivate, they aren’t interested in staying in touch this way.

Regardless, I don’t see how any of these actiosn arises to the level of needing to vent on a web forum.

Post # 12
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@AquaGrey8962:  Hmm, if I was good friends with someone (or family) I think a 30 minute phone call about their trip to Disneyland would be appropriate because I’d be excited to hear about what they did, but I guess that is where you and I differ.

People use social media for tons of different things. If that is the way they want to use it, and you are tired of it, remove them. It doesn’t sound like they are easy to get a hold of on there anyway since they are always deactivating their accounts.

Sounds like you are mainly the one that wants to keep in contact with them since you are the one upset that they never text you. If that isn’t true, then don’t make an effort anymore since they don’t care.

Post # 13
989 posts
Busy bee

@AquaGrey8962:  I know what you mean! I’ve had to hide all posts from a couple of people (can’t unfriend so I have to hide!). There are some that are just all about the drama, and I don’t get it. Usually it’s vague drama that when asked, they don’t elaborate, or don’t want to talk about it. I cannot believe how many people air their dirty laundry on FB! I never feed into the vague updates, people are just fishing for attention. 

Post # 14
1018 posts
Bumble bee

@AquaGrey8962:  I can see how this would get annoying… except the 1st one deleting her facebook and asking that you text or call. That seems reasonable and I did the same thing when I deleted FB. However it IS ridiculous if she doesn’t attempt to contact you, and therefore blames you for not keeping in touch.

Even if it seems like she’s the kind of person to delete her FB because her husband told her to, I think it was a little intrusive to out right ask about that.

The deactivating and reactivating girl wouldn’t be so annoying if she didn’t keep announcing it…

The last one…I don’t see what was wrong here. Except maybe you feel she’s being a hypocrite by “not caring about labels” but seems to be ashamed that her SO got a sex change.

I don’t know it sounds more like you have a problem with their personalities than their social media use… but I don’t blame ya 😉

Post # 16
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sugar_biscuit:  +1

OP, I would be uber pissed and even if it matched my personality I would be pissed! Saying something like THAT is misusing social media 

Why can’t you keep in touch with these people over the phone? If you want the relationship then I suggest you call them if you don’t then don’t be FB friends and don’t call 

I think I would understand someone leaving FB during a sex change, that is some heavy personal stuff and even I would try my best not to care but I am sure it would bug the crud out of me! 

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