yet another 'i hate my inlaws' post!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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11740 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you need to talk to your FI about this, and then have him bring your hopefully joint concerns to his mother.  If it makes you uncomfortable, you have to talk about it with him and face it head on.  

I had some issues with my inlaws as well, but honestly, you need to get past them or they are going to start causing tension between you and your FI. 

Post # 4
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@smealeys:  Throwing a party YOU don’t want with people YOU don’t know and expecting YOU (or your family) to pay the bill, or half of it? That’s just shitty, especially because she knows you guys are skint. But your FI should defend you and he should see your point though. So it’s like a double shitty for you. Sorry OP!

 

You know my FMIL is a piece of work too, so I really really understand. It’s not about the money, it’s about being considerate. My FMIL is buying like their third house and they pay FBIL’s way through life while we struggle to make ends meet. It’s not that I want their cash, it would just be nice for them to acknowledge how shitty it is that FI had to learn the hard way there was a game of favourites and he lost his round.

Post # 7
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849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@smealeys:  Oh I feel ya lady. If they could be more discreet about funding their favourite we’d all breathe a sigh of sheer relief because then I won’t have to see how much it hurts my FI’s feelings. You know, you should put your foot down and say ‘sorry we cannot afford it’ and just see how she reacts. They don’t like handling the nuts and bolts of their own decisions, I promise you. Good luck to you!

Post # 8
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1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I think you need to start putting your foot down with her in instances like these and just flat out say no instead of moaning to your FI afterwards (i realise i am being a huge hypocite here) your FI is right,  your his wife now and with matters like these you need to talk up.

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