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Well I love my job..what I don't love are busybodies who feel it's their right to look over your shoulder and scrutinize your job (without them scrutinizing their own work and seeing their own many many mistakes). 

I was on call last week and ended up getting called in at 2 am (an emergency patient) and was up all night long and the night morphed into my regular day work shift.  After being awake for the entire night and morning..for 10 seconds I shut my eyes while sitting at my computer monitor waiting to get a patient to work on and a coworker (she is much older than I) whom I considered a friend..wrote me up for being asleep.  Were I really alseep wouldn't a friend whow as 8 paces away walk over and say "hey..know you've been up the whole night but go get some coffee" or "do you want to get some relief staff to fill in if you're really exhausted?"..  Nope.  I got not one decency or courtesy from her or even an inkling she even thought that in the first place.  Crazy crazy crazy.

Did she know I was up the entire evening?  oh yes.  Did I also help her out with some of her patients during that day although I was dead on my feet?  Yes.  That's how I am. 

But here's the kicker.  She didn't send the email to our director, no.  She sent it to HIS boss.  Why?  She believed our director was too much of my friend and would be COMPASSIONATE to me because of my pulling the all night call.  Yep.  She sure stabbed me in the back.

Well it backfired on her and she actually has gotten into severe trouble for the stunt, but it hurt me rather deeply.  I've never had anybody deliberately stab me in the back and then attempt in the process to stab their boss at the same time too in the back.  This is somebody who I considered a friend and this happened without any warning or provocation. 

Needless to say, the woman came in for 10 minutes when our shifts overlapped to work with me and couldn't even look at me.  She actually had to walk out of the room and pretend to have to go find something b/c she feels so guilty.  Me?  I am doing all I can do to not do the following:  1)be unprofessional in any way 2) cry 3) and it's taking all my strength and candor to not say what I'd really like to say to her.

My boss' boss said to "kill her with kindness and take the higher road".  But it's difficult.  I am always pleasant and decent to everybody.  But this goes beyond..way beyond anything that has ever happened to me at work before. 

So that's why I've been offline a bit lately and in a generally funky mood.

This will take all the strength I have to not let her have it (verbally) and rip her a new one.  I have prayed about it, and meditated on what to do and I'll try to take the higher road.  But sadly I'm like an elephant.  I can forgive but I won't forget.  I can only imagine what will fly out of my mouth on  my last day somewhere in the future.  And when I do, it will make the paint peel off the walls, Santa Claus cry because he couldn't imagine me saying such things, and I'll possibly teach her new words that woman didn't even know existed.

Sorry for that.  Who's had an evil backstabber to deal with too?  Make me feel that I'm not alone here ok?

Today when she actually had enough cajones to walk into the same room with me, it was all I could do to not whisper to her "Et  Tu Brute?"

((HUGS)) the only thing i could say was the coworker who i thought i was friendly enough to that sent the racist email about me to me... i was really hurt by that.  lol he said all sorts of things about me being ghetto etc, um really i went to an ivy league college and worked at a very lucrative job.  whatevas i say belle!!!

That's awful girl.  So horrible.  Hugs at you too.

I honestly cannot look at her because I'm fearful lazers will shoot out of my eyes despite my calm and professional demeanor. 

I just cannot believe it.  I am in shock she did this.  After knowing this person almost five years.  I would have never guessed this.

Oh well.  One less invite (no make that 2) to the wedding.  One less person to enjoy my spread.

Like the soup nazi from Seinfeld, here's my thoughts now.

"No wedding for YOU!"

@belle... you could always slip some laxative into her coffee and then disappear for lunch :D

Actually, this woman IS on medication.

Well I have to see this person friday but I know she's probably going to try to re-arrange her schedule so she doesn't have to be there.

I have to do what the boss' boss asked of me.  So I will be decent and professional with her but at all cost watch my back now since she's been found out to be a wolf in sheeps' clothing.  It's my plan to avoid being alone with her at all costs and I will also try to do that.

You are all so kind and sweet and to anybody going thru this too nothing but hugs.

It's literally insane why she appraoched anything in this manner.