- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So this is like the 4th situation I’ve had to ask for advice from the Bees, if I knew wedding planning was going to cause this many problems I would have agreed to eloping.
Okay, so the situation is this. I allowed my sister (who is a bridesmaid) to bring a guest. She isn’t in a relationship but I thought it might be nice if she would bring a friend to keep her company/I was trying to be nice. The guest that she invited is a friend of my brother’s (who is an usher). My brother convinced her into inviting this guy (who my sister doesn’t even really care for) and his reason is that the friend can keep my brother’s girlfriend company while they’re doing wedding stuff AND because they’re heading to a football game the next day and it would be easiest to leave from the wedding location. My brother has a tendency to hang out with an unsavory crowd, so FI and I were curious about this guy and looked him up in the circuit court website for our state. Low and behold, he has past convictions for drug dealing and battery, among other felonies. Of course these were all years ago and I’m of the mindset that people can change, however FI was a bit worried about this.
Well, when my father (who is paying for the reception) found out about the fact that my sister’s guest is really my brother’s friend, he became furious. He feels like my brother is taking advantage of him and this is completely disrespectful. Then my FI lets it out that the friend is a convicted felon. He wants to un-invite the friend, which could potentially end up with my brother (and possibly sister just out of principal) to drop out of the wedding. (yeah, seriously, whatever happened to unconditional love…learned through wedding process who our true family/friends have been).
To me…yes, it was disrespectful to ask that my Dad to pay for this guy, that neither FI or I know, to get a free steak and booze just as a convenience to my brother. However, if my sister had invited a friend of hers, it would have been pretty much the same situation, not really knowing the person who my dad is paying for. Isn’t this a risk we take when we allow people to bring a guest?