YOGMO (You Only Get married Once)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@llamadrama:  cute! I say that every time I overspend… My dress most def! More than my first car!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Haha, this is what everyone else kept telling me when I would try to save and cut corners on things. I would go for the cheaper flowers/dress/catering/alcohol, and my family would often say, “We will pay the difference, I mean, you only get married once.” It was pretty sweet actually.

 

I won’t lie though, I say it to myself sometimes too! I was going to wear these shoes I already own under my dress, shoes that I really don’t even like, a few days ago I said screw it, and bought a pair.

 

Oh yeah…and my photography is “expensive” to me, but it was important, and I knew I could never get pictures like it again. YOGMO!

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@llamadrama:  I feel like there are quite a few encore brides here that may have hurt feelings because of this post. Though I totally get what you’re saying.

Also haiiiii date twin! 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@Chrysoberyl:   Thanks! I agree a lot are probably offended especially those who are throwing a large wedding or expensive wedding. Mostly, I am thinking “YOGMO”…are you sure? No one thinks they’ll get divorced or have a spouse die, but sure you only get married once. Sooo if a crystal ball told you, you’d get married again you’d what?  Change your wedding plans?

Also, YOLO is an excuse to do anything regardless how stupid but justify it by saying YOLO at the end. I find the use of YOLO ridiculous and was so disappointed that YOGMO wasn’t going to be some cleaver way to mock YOLO and those who think it is so cool to say it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I believe you only get married once. I bought myself a pair of sparkly light blue heels that cost twice as much as any of my usual practical shoes, and I spent a disgusting amount (to me) on flowers. I just do not see myself having another wedding in my lifetime.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If anyone who is on their second marriage and are offended then they can still use YOGMO – you only get married once (to this person)! 

I’ve bought myself an evening reception dress to get changed into as my ceremony dress is very fitted and tight. No, its not particularly traditional, but if I want to wear two lovely dresses rather than just one then I can because YOGMO! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

hahaha my mom, who is paying for my wedding, continually says “you only get one.”  I guess my biggest “yogo” splurge was my dress. and the venue. Both are wayy out of original budget, but amazing. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@EncoreBridetoBe:  I’m with you, I’m a high school teacher and my students know not to say YOLO around me because they get a lecture every time! – yes, you only live once, that’s right! so if you die in a stupid accident that could have been prevented, or from infections you got from a dodgy piercing or tattoo, or from alcohol poisoning, or any other of the many stupid things teenagers do… that’s it! you don’t get another chance! YOLO!

sorry, slight side rant! my YOGMO thing was having our reception at our favourite bar and putting our favourite foods on the menu, regardless of whether anyone else would like it. YOGMO(hopefully), and to me that meant that you only get to have one awesome catered party where it’s all about you. and btw, people did like the food. yay!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@polkadotgirl:  Ok, I’d die if I taught highschool and had to hear YOLO all day, as is it takes all my strength not to slap a person who says it near me!

Post # 12
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@EncoreBridetoBe:  trust me working at a girl’s high school, YOLO is the least of my worries! the things they talk about in class… *shakes head*

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Let’s see… Dress for sure, also the invitations and jewelry (like an amazing and expensive pair of earrings that I just had to have to mark the occasion.) So yes, that philosophy helped give me license to splurge!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ha, I find myself saying this a lot, too. I had major dress regret, so now I’m in the process of trying to find a dress I like better (and sell the old one). The first dress is probably fine and I could live with it, but…YOGMO! I also splurged on the bridal suite where my BMs and I will get ready. I got a free overnight stay because of my venue (they have a partner B&B next door), but I upgraded to the mega suite (and just upgrading cost way more than I should have spent). Let’s see…I could probably do my own hair, but I’m paying someone to do it so I can just relax. And now I’m contemplating a pair of rose gold Badgley Mischkas…for, you know, that one picture you take of your shoes.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The whole wedding is basically a yogmo, honestly.

We set out budget to 6k, and within a week of planning I realized we were going to have to sacrifice ALOT of what we wanted – for 6k we just weren’t going to get a beautiful ceremony space, with 100+ invites, great food, entertainment, dj and our road trip honeymoon.

No matter how many corners I tried to cut, it just wasn’t going to happen.

So, we added to the budget is around $20,000 [which includes EVERYTHING : rings, parties, honeymoon, literally everything].

We obviously still have to watch our budget, and we did have to compromise a bit [couldn’t have a huge fancy venue and what not], but the things that we felt strongly about [good food, booze, beautiful ceremony space, guest list] are well within budget.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am trying to AOID this emotion completely because we have such a tiny budget and can really only afford basic basic basic.

For us “you only have one financial life to handle responsibly” outweighs “you only get married once.”

But if you have the money to spend, of course you should do it exactly how you want it.

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