Post # 1
So someone posted something on here about someone who plans on proposing at a wedding and how offensive it was (I don’t think the bride and groom were in on it).
Well, after reading that post I had a dream about two friends of mine. Our friend J, plans on proposing to his girlfriend H, sometime next summer. In my dream, he proposed to her at our wedding! My Fiance and I were in on the plan and set it up so that she caught the boquet and he caught the garter. When she sat down for him to put the garter on her, he pulled out a ring instead and proposed!
When I woke up I was like, “That is such a cool idea!” H would never suspect being proposed to at someone else’s wedding. I told my Fiance about it and he thinks it is cool idea too. He even suggested that we run the idea by J to see if it is something he would be interested in.
I am so not the type of bride that needs all the attention on me on my wedding day. I see it as a day to celebrate love and committment, and what better way then to “pass the torch” so to speak??
Am I crazy? Should I mention this idea to J? The worst he can say is no, right??
Post # 3
if everybody’s cool with it, why wouldn’t you do it? especially because it sounds like you would really like that.
Post # 4
I don’t think its crazy. It’s kinda sweet of you to be willing to share yopur day with your friend. But maybe at the end of the night? lol
Post # 5
No, you’re not crazy, and I think that is a perfectly adorable idea!
Post # 6
Well I think its crazy because I would never want to do it…kind of like cliff diving. But that doesn’t mean it actually is crazy and it sounds like it would be a total surprise and kinda cute.
Post # 7
Sounds like a cool idea to me! I dont think it can detract from your wedding. People will congratulate her, take a quick look at the ring, then go back to partying at your wedding. I mean, no ones gonna have to ask her for the proposal story or anything like that or ask her if she has any plans yet. There wouldnt be much to talk about except “congrats!”
Post # 8
being that its your idea, i see nothing wrong with it! however, i also wonder about how your friend would feel being proposed to at someone else’s wedding. I might feel bad since it is someone else’s wedding. and i guess it depends if you think your friend prefers a public or private proposal. I personally wanted private (and got the perfect one!), because i see it as a moment between only those two people. but i see no harm is suggesting it and the guy should know his gf well enough to know if its the right thing to do or not.
ETA: i guess what i am also saying is that while your idea is great (catching the bouquet and garter), it is still YOUR idea. As the proposee, what i think makes its special is that your boyfriend comes up with a nice idea on his own and puts it together.
Post # 9
Can I just say how thoughtful this is of you? I think it’s a great idea! I do agree with PurpleUnicorn though…make sure that when you mention it to your friend’s boyfriend that he’s comfortable doing it at your wedding and you aren’t forcing him into it.
Post # 10
@dynamic_duo: Good point. I know she was worried because he is not romantic at all and said that she figured he would just roll over in bed one night and hand her the ring…something very anti-climatic. I don’t think she would mind a public proposal though and shouldn’t feel bad knowing we were in on it.
I agree though that he knows her best. I am going to tell him my idea and if he decidest to take a different route I completely understand! Either way I love them both and am just anxious for them to get engaged!!
Post # 11
Aw I think that’s really sweet of you to “share” your thunder! I’ll admit that I’m too self-centered a bride to do this… but good for you and I hope it works out!
Post # 12
@RahlyRah: i think your post and pinkshoes comment –
I dont think it can detract from your wedding. People will congratulate her, take a quick look at the ring, then go back to partying at your wedding.
– made me think even more about this from the other side so to speak (as the person getting engaged). Based on what pinkshoes said, i almost think it might suck to get proposed to at a wedding like that! I mean, it IS the bride’s day, and i remember when i got engaged, i wanted to enjoy the moment and soak it up. Then i was excited to call everyone and tell them the story. So i don’t think i would like feeling like “oh i just got engaged, i want to sing it from the rooftops, but i can’t because i have to go back to being at my friend’s wedding”. and no one could gush over the ring, which is also part of the fun in telling your proposal story.
Sorry to put a damper on your idea, i still think you are a totally sweet friend for coming up with it and wanting to do it. And maybe it would have a different feel to it than the way pinkshoes described. But if it is like “oh you’re engaged, congrats, now we can ignore it for the rest of the night”, i would just think that is kind of sucky….
Post # 13
Personally I wouldnt like to be proposed to at someone elses wedding, nor would I like for someone else to be proposed to at mine.
Post # 14
I think it’s a totally fun and sweet idea! If J likes the idea and thinks H would like it and you two are on board, then I’d say go for it (and get pics!!)! I don’t think it would take away from EITHER day. The bride and groom are happy because it was their idea and they want to see their friends get engaged and be happy. H & J get some awesome photos of their engagement and a fun proposal story to tell. I see that as win-win.
Post # 15
I think it’s really cute, and I wouldn’t mind at all if someone proposed at my wedding. All I really cared about was the ceremony, I didn’t need people fawning over me and gushing about me all night.
Post # 16
Another plus is that you’ll have a photographer there who can document the special moment for her! What a cute idea!