Post # 1
so I normally find the dove real beauty campaign a bit hokey, but someone shared this video on my fb feed last night and i just thought it was lovely, fascinating, and incredible:
let’s stick with the positivity! what are your favorite things about your appearance??
Post # 3
Totally agree. I think alot of times we focus SO much on the negativity, and not on the positive.
I love my eyes, they change colors [SUPER bright green when I’m REALLY excited].
Post # 4
I love my body (particularly my flat tummy, long legs and perky boobs). I also love my eyes and last but definitely not least, my metabolism. I do not know how I got so lucky, but I eat like a pig, rarely exercise (except walking the dogs and horse riding) yet I am 100 pounds (and 5’6, so pretty thin).
Actually there aren’t many things I don’t like. There are a few, but on the whole I am really thankful for my appearance.
Great idea for a thread! I feel like people need to focus more on what they like about themselves!
Post # 5
Not to be negative, but this isn’t actually an accurate way of judging your own appearance versus what others think. The woman who described the women who had described themselves barely knew them, and only talked to them for like a minute. How could she accurately describe them? At a passing glance, everyone looks better than they really do.
Post # 6
i’m certainly not as blessed as @Lovemelovemyhorses: but I have to say I am very lucky to have my shape. My weight fluctuates quite a bit, but doesn’t really impact my appearance a whole lot. A thirty pound weight difference looks about the same as 5 on many people (and this is not because I am extremely heavy. depending on my lifestyle I can be anywhere from 150-180 lbs (i am 5’7″) and look pretty much the same…)
I’m also a huge fan of my eyes and teeth. I can be pretty lazy about oral hygeine sometimes because i have never had a cavity in my life and my teeth look crest white strips white all the time.
Post # 7
omg! I was in tears when I saw that (maybe because I’m just way too emotional right now) I shared it on FB but it got a little overrun with the stuff that happened in Boston (so sad). But yes this is an AWESOME video and really sad how we view ourselves. I think it definitely rings true too. I am definitely guilty of criticizing my looks.
Post # 8
@peachacid: I think the key is that people focused on what they thought was prominent and what they thought EVERYONE saw as soon as they looked at them. Like if I thought I had an obnoxious nose or chin and that everyone who came across me instantly saw that and was horrified by the appearance… when in reality, they don’t see it at all! they may not even notice it in passing.
Post # 9
There’s an interesting article that brings up some things to think about:
“So you’re beautiful… if you’re thin, don’t have noticeable wrinkles or scars, and have blue eyes. If you’re fat or old… uh, maybe other people don’t think you look as fat and old as you do yourself? Great? Oh, and by the way, there are real women who look like the women on the left. What are you saying about them, exactly?”
Post # 10
I watched it on Good Morning America. Very interesting.
Post # 11
Well, i’d love to have good teeth! My mum has the most naturally perfect teeth I’ve ever seen, shame she didn’t pass them on to me lol.
That is super cool. It’s like an inbuilt mood ring 😀
Post # 12
@mjoyelle: +1 I was just going to post this.
I appreciate the idea behind this Dove ad/film/whatever it is, and I totally agree that we should all love ourselves a whole lot more. So I like that.
But the author of that post makes a great point when she says that this Dove thing merely reinforces our very narrow definition of beauty. It’s all about, “Oh, you’re not as fat/old as you think!” instead of, “You are perfect exactly as you are, and you have tremendous value, crow’s feet and all.”
It also reinforces this idea that beauty is the be-all-and-end-all for women. Can you imagine a similar video being made for men? It would be laughable.
Post # 13
@Woodstock: But no one said, “Describe yourself how you think others see you.” The guy said, “Describe your hair. Describe your face. What does your chin look like? What is your most prominent feature?” I think it’s a good way to see how we think we look, but the second girl having him draw pictures from her memory of meeting a bunch of people is dumb. It should have been the two people sitting, with the one girl describing the person she was looking at. That would have been a better way to see how close our own perception is to “reality”, though it’s that one girl’s reality, not everyone’s.
Post # 14
@peachacid: yea i get what you’re saying they could have done that. I know if I had to describe myself, I’d need a mirror. LMAO. At least the first part gets the point across though. 🙂 (them describing themselves)
Post # 15
Okay, I don’t know if I’m premenstrual, or crazy, or just a big ol’ sap… but that made me cry. At work. Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
ETA: @Woodstock Oh thank God, I’m not the only one!
Post # 16
What if I’m not cute? But I smile a lot, and I dance joyfully, and I love giving presents. I love asking questions and hearing what people are passionate about, and I love writing and climbing trees, I’m really good at planning things, and lI love earning about science, and seeing students get excited about expressing their point of view, and I make awesome french toast.
Those are the things I like about myself, and I wish I could focus on those things instead of my looks. But I do have crows feet and forehead wrinkles, and freckles, and frizzy hair, I don’t have blue eyes or a thin face, and I wish I could just say – oh well, I’m still awesome.