You CAN change your SO

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 4
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Jess1483:  We have this thing where if you do the cooking, you don’t do the dishes. But unfortunately for me, I hardly ever do the cooking so I’m stuck with the dishes. We have a dishwasher, but I feel it takes forever to finish & probably uses much more water. 

Post # 5
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4587 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Very cute!

I cook and do the dishes every night, with no dishwasher. And I take care of our 3 month-old all day. Yay me.

Post # 6
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I do all the cooking and cleaning in our house, but my husband works and I don’t, so I think it’s fair.

Post # 7
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

FI SAYS he’ll do the dishes since I cook, but he will let them pile up for a week before he gets to them so I do them more often than not. But he’s definitely a lot better now than when we first moved in together almost 2 years ago about cleaning up after himself and helping me out around the house. 

Post # 8
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318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@Jess1483:  Hmm.. been with my FI for 3.5 years… Fingers crossed that maybe it’ll change once we get married. He still won’t do this. Harumph. haha

Hooray for little victories!! Go you!! 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow, that’s amazing to know it CAN happen, even if it’s the exception, not the rule.  Me, I was just excited that last night after I started to make dinner, he came over to help.  Then, after dinner, I started puttering around cleaning and when I was doing the dishes he finally took on a task he’s been saying needs to be done (washing out the trash can and getting the nasty liquid out).  I was going to do it last night if he didn’t as promised, but strategically did other things first to give him a chance to step up in a rare fashion.  TWO things, such progress!

Of course, I cleaned the bathroom floor, made dinner, did the dishes, cleaned the stove top, wiped down counters, went through the fridge, put dishes in the dishwasher and ran it, put away dishes in the drying rack, went through some papers, and got the printer driver downloaded and connected up last night, to his two things.  Still much progress to be made.

Post # 10
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Cleaning sucks and we both hate it, so we hire someone 😛 The day to day stuff we usually split but I will be honest that FI does more than I do.

Post # 12
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1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Jess1483:“I talked to him about it today, and he said he still doesn’t “get” my need for other areas of the house to be cleaned quickly, but since the dishes are sort of “his area” now, he can’t relax until they are done.

I’ll take it!!”

 

Small victories are the best!

Post # 13
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2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

His clutter has gotten a little bit better, he knows how much it bugs me so he’s tried to get a better handle on it.

Post # 14
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Rubbs:  Me and DH have the same compromise!!! I dont cook really so I’m always stuck with the dishes lol

Post # 15
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sweetchiquita12:  lol…yeah, I feel bad when someone cooks & does the dishes. It doesn’t seem fair. Even when I lived at home, my mom always cooked & I did the dishes 90% of the time… My brother the 10% lol 

Post # 16
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

that is sweet of him to do that. 🙂 FI have the rule of cleaning as we cook. so if he cooks, he cleans up his mess and i will do dishes after. or if i cook, i clean as i go and he will do dishes. it works well and when we end up cooking together we do dishes together also. it works for now! 🙂

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