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Hah - I totally am there! Instead of FI, it's actually me holding me back. I think that I would love to be a bee - the creative juices are flowing and I want to share! However, I just don't think that I can get myself to post pictures of myself and FI for the world to see - I even write a food blog, but I never even use names or even post pictures of our faces, just food.
Tee hee! I didn't even bother asking. My guy doesn't even have facebook, that's how anti-pics on the net he is. No wedding website, nada. I don't know why he's like that but he is what he is. It would have been nice to see you blog your wedding though.
No my DH is the opposite. He actually said "So this is kind of like an online journal" and he was really supportive of the fact that i had somewhere to go to to just "bee" without harassing all my friends and family all the time :)
I suspect my husband might freak if he knew how much I put in my posts...there is NO WAY he'd be ok with me being a Bee.
haha i agree with your fi...i do not want my picture all over a website when i can't control the privacy!
My FI thinks its weird how much we talk about weddings and how much information everyone shares. Every time I bring up a wedding idea, which he calls the "good idea fairy", he always asks if I read it on the bee. Never mentioned to him about being a Bee, but I'm not sure he'd want me too.
@ATP2011: He doesn't really 'get' blogging at all. He says it's cool to do if I can control who's looking at it. oh SO.
DH told me (kind of) the same thing back in the day. No wedding blogging for me, he didn't want pictures of himself on the internet.
I've had a random blog for 6 years now, so I don'tthink he would care one way or the other as he is used to it. I di think that blogging about the entire wedding might be a bit much for us though.
Aww, that's too bad. I would have loved to read about the traiditional elements you talked about. I'm sure many people here would have!
my fiance is very very supportive of it. that way i dont bother him all the time with stuff lol. sometimes he even gives me ideas i should blog about
I agree with your FI. It blows my mind how much personal info Bees post here -- location, first names, full-face pictures (of themselves and others, i.e. guests, bridal party members, who might not have even given consent to have their photos posted), even, i.e. in the case of Scissors' invitation, their parents' full address!!! Yikes. I find that even a lot of Hive members do some crazy over-sharing. I don't know if it's worth it to risk your safety (and especially the safety of your unsuspecting friends/family) in that manner.
My fiance would probably be okay with it if it was something I really wanted to do, but I can't imagine being able to post many recaps because I doubt my friends and especially my family would appreciate their photos on a public site seen by so many.
I have posted one or 2 pics of me and the hubs on here, but that's it. i don't see the difference between that and posting pics on facebook
@MrsSl82be: We both mentioned facebook and his stance was there is much more control over your privacy than on here, which I agree with.
MY SO is like that. He doesn't mind my personal blog, but he's freaked out about the scale of this website.
@bride123: Some people feel free to 'over share' as you said maybe because they are on an internet forum and it's not so bad as in, they are strangers on here and they don't think anyone would recognize them. I don't even know why I am not okay with putting my pictures on here. Think of it, all the NYC brides I've seen on this site and none I've ever recognized on the train :)
Good for you for understanding that writing about your wedding means that BOTH partners should be on board! I totally understand where your FI is coming from!
Though we are both private people, I'm the one who had major fear with the 'bee/privacy issues. It crossed my mind when I applied, but I really worried about it when I was accepted. Fortunately, Mr. PD reminded me that I have control of what I post.
So far, I've kept the pictures of us at a minimum, gotten the consent of every one whose picture I've posted, and had Mr. PD read over everything I've written to make sure I'm not over-sharing in a way that makes him uncomfortable. It's a really hard balance to keep!
My FH was against me blogging in the first place, since he "hates bloggers" (I'm not even really sure he knows that many!)
But when I told him I was blogging about the wedding, he quickly settled into a state of indifference... I think he was relieved he wouldn't be expected to read my blog, haha!
@Baileyh: I think my FH would have the same reaction... finally someone else for me to discuss details like plum versus eggplant besides him!
See, my boyfriend is actually very pro my applying to be a bee as he is the one who finally pushed me to join the hive. (I was a very long time lurker)
He's setting up a site for both of us to blog about the wedding. He's more excited about blogging than I am :)
My FI won't even let me post a pic of the two of us as my avatar so I'm fairly certain he'd freak right the hell out if I wanted to blog our whole wedding.
Aw that sucks :(
After a post about wanting to be a Bee I had a daydream of you and I as bees, since our weddings are around the same time. Yes, I'm lame lol
@HoneyBear: haha I love ya almost kinda wedding date/year twin. I would love to be a Bee with you :( I wonder if there is a way not to do recaps, haha.
You don't have to put pictures of yourself on here. You can just write about your traditions. We would all love to hear about them. Plus you can private message pics if someone really wants them. Just be sure not to include your face.
Mr. Lion is really active on some message boards about his alma mater. So when I got into Weddingbee, he was like "Yay! You get what my boards are all about!" Funny that you mention it, though...I have some friends who have said the same thing! "Wow, I can't believe you would just share that much and you have NO IDEA who THESE PEOPLE are!!!" Mr. Lion always comes to mine (and your!) defense, saying that Weddingbee is a community, and that its so wonderful that the readers have a way to talk about what they have in common.
You are very wise to take his opinions into account, though! Miss PD is right...it's not just your wedding that gets blogged about. You are a wonderful fiancee to consider him too! I hope y'all find some kind of balance that allows you to apply :)
I've been doing this for a year and I've never met a crazy person from Weddingbee. :) If anyone is stalking us, they would have to be pretty benign stalkers, since they didn't even crash our wedding. ;) But I couldn't have done it either without Mr. Spaniel's consent. I can't say I'd be above trying to change his mind, though, if I were you! ;)
I felt strange asking my very private friends if they minded being subjects of a public blog. These are all people who have alias' on FB. I figured it wasn't worth it, as much fun it would be to post. Long story short, I didn't apply and that was a big reason. I didn't even go there with FI at the time...
Personally i'm a private person so I wouldnt want to blog about my personal choices and day to day activites and put pictures of myself up, but i do enjoy reading other peoples blogs though. My FI wouldnt like to blogged about either.
Not only does Mr. Octo support me being a bee, I think he's a little jealous of all the positive attention and comments that come with the territory, hahaha. More than once he has suggested that I post about things that are only very tangentially related to our wedding and much more related to funny things he has said or done.
I hope he comes around Aubergold! I would love to see you as a Bee!
I wouldn't want to be be Bee, but FI would be perfectly fine with it.
Aw, that's too bad! I was totally hoping you'd apply. Is he okay with you posting things on the boards here? We'd love to see your wedding! :)
@octopus: Mr. O(yster) loves the bee, too. He sits by me on the couch when I read sometimes, and he says, "How are the bees buzzing today?" Very cute.
I think he'd be fine with it.. I already have a blog on our wedding website & he's always asking me "So have you updated the blog?" "When are you going to update the blog again?" haha. It's just our friends who read it, but he thought it was a great idea.. He's also very into the internet & blogging & forums & such, which is probably why he's into the idea of me having a wedding blog!
@prairiedog: @octopus: @oyster: and other Bees- Did you tell your family and bridal party before you applied or only ask their permission after you became a Bee? I wonder if any Bee's family or bridal party has objected to their pictures being posted on the site and how they handled it. Just curious :)
My husband had encouraged me to start a blog and try to become a Bee back in the day but I knew that it was a lot of work and there was a lot to live up to.. plus there was no way my blogging could compare to that of the bees!
@Aubergold: and other ladies who can't apply: Awww, I hope you will at least be able to share some with us on the boards!
@riley jane: Mr. Cola was very supportive, and encouraged me to apply to be a Bee, but I would never even think to ask our bridal party or family if I could just apply. Especially given how many bloggers don't make the cut, I wouldn't have wanted to get anyone's hopes up if I hadn't been accepted. But after I did get accepted, I told my friends and family. They were all actually really excited about it! I don't think it's really all that much different than Facebook (which I don't even have an account for, but I hear half the people on there can't figure out the security issues and have everything exposed to everyone!). I even heard through my sister, who does have an account, that lots of our wedding guests posted photos of our wedding and us. Some even held our photos hostage, saying we had to 'friend' them to download their photos, they couldn't email them!
All that said though, I've never shown our last names or mailing address on anything, I've blurred them out every time. And I've always been respectful if anyone asks me not to post certain photos (Mr. C has requested certain things not go up!). Plus, I'm not very good at writing personal or 'feelings' posts, mainly I've concentrated on sharing DIY tutorials and planning. Maybe if I was airing all our dirty laundry, Mr. C would feel differently, but showing pretty pictures of our wedding is pretty harmless. Just think of all the Style Me Pretty and other sites featuring weddings, at least in my opinion, it's an honor, and not a security concern if you're mindful about what is being shown.
One of the much older Bee's actually never showed her husband in her blogs. He did not want his picture on the internet so she used some creative cropping.
Aww thats too bad. 
Mr. M. Thought it was pretty cool when I decided to apply. He had his own blog long before I thought about being a bee so it was something we could now share. He gets a big kick out of being called Mr. Meerkat and seeing what I write.
By the way, no crazy stalkers. I even posted links to them on facebook so my friends could read them and they have all told me how great its been to be able to read about our planning and the wedding. Even old friends from high school said it was great because they felt like they are a part of it.
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I was on wedding bee on Saturday and looking through some of the blogger's post. FI saw me and commented "so these people are writing about their weddings on the internet? that is some weird stuff. I cant believe they put pictures of themselves on this site" I said it's fun to share wedding stuff, I might end try to apply to blog for them if we end up having a bigger wedding.
He was like "hell no! you cant put pictures of us on the internet for crazy people (sorry bee community lol) to see them! you dont know who's out there!"
Sigh. Alas, my beautiful wedding bee community, I shall never be a BEE now. I couldn't go forward with doing it knowing he's so adamantly uncomfortable with it. I thought it might be cool to blog about a African/African-American wedding with many traditional elements, but even if I ever did get accepted into the bee world, it wouldn't happen.
If you wanted to be a bee, would be SO be fine with that? Current bees, did your SOs have a reaction either way?