Post # 1
So… my hubby’s sister (future SIL) is getting married in a few months. I was talking “wedding” stuff with her over the weekend. She said they ordered their invites and they put down that the ceremony starts at 12pm when in reality it starts at 1pm. She said “I don’t want people to be late” – I was floored… and didn’t even know what to say. Has anyone ever seen anyone do this??? I would be so frustrated/angry and worried if I showed up at 11:50am for a 12pm ceremony and had to sit there trying to figure out what the heck is going on? I don’t think this would be an issue if someone put down a 15-20 min difference BUT AN HOUR??? THOUGHTS???
Post # 3
That seems excessive. I don’t see anything wrong with putting a time that’s 15-30 minutes earlier if they know their guests aren’t very punctual… but an hour seems like a bit much.
Post # 4
WHATTTT!?!?!? Yeah, I would be furious. I mean, it’s not like I’ve brought a book with me or something — I’ve probably brought the absolute bare minimum amount of entertainment along. There’s only so much to read on Facebook mobile before I get bored and fidgety, haha. That ceremony better be five minutes long to make up for the fact that guests have already been there a full hour before it starts …
Post # 5
They’re going to think there is a run away bride situation
Post # 6
5 min late I won’t notice
10 min late I won’t mind
15 min late I would start to get annoyed
30 minutes late and I’d stand up to leave.
Interesting choice on your sister’s part, I hope she has a different group of guests attending than my personality.
Post # 7
@memo: Right? or a runaway groom.. that’s why I said I would be worried as well because if you don’t know that it’s really supposed to start at 1pm then what would you think? I guess I’m glad she told me – now I don’t have to show up at 11:50am.
Post # 8
@Bwed2012: I recently attended a wedding that was noted with an earlier than planned start time. My DH and I busted our butts to get there by the time noted on the invitation only to wait around in the hot sun (there was noooo shade where the chairs were) for 45 minutes.
I understand the idea behind it but in reality it is really inconsiderate to make your guests wait 45 minutes or an hour etc.
Post # 9
@joya_aspera: I’m pretty sure I would leave after 30 minutes as well.. future SIL lol not my sister. Sorry – overall her and I don’t get along but this just makes me realize she’s crazier than I thought.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
I would not sit there and wait an hour. Lateness is a huge pet peeve of mine. 15-30 minutes late on your weding day? I can understand that, but I would not wait an hour.
Post # 11
@Treejewel19: I agree especially because I am extremely punctual and I get mad at myself when I’m late for something. Most of the time I do bust my butt to get places but I make things happen.
Post # 12
If I waited for the ceremony,and I’m not sure that I would, I definitely wouldn’t be attending the reception. I would need to put time and space between us so I could restrain myself from publically berating of her on her wedding day.
Rudeness begets rudeness.
Post # 13
Well, since they’ve already approved and ordered the invitations, it’s too late to change them now! But I agree, that’s just weird. I’d encourage them to have refreshments for the guests (at the very least lemonade, punch, maybe some light snacks) since they’re going to be sitting around for an hour.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@Bwed2012: I can see 15-30 minutes but an hour is excessive. I plan to tell one of my aunts the ceremony starts earlier than it actually does because she is notoriously late and I know will be for my wedding. Her invite will probably be different than everyone elses lol and say Ceremony starts at 1:30pm when everyone elses says starts at 2:00. This is because she will be a half hour late and arrive just in time.
An hour!!! If I were the guest and had to wait around for an hour for a wedding that I arrived already 15 minutes early for to get a seat I’d be mad.
Post # 15
@Bwed2012: Sorry! lol understood, she seems… difficult.
Post # 16
@NurseMandie: haha my sister (my real sister) does this to her husband since he’s always late 🙂 but that’s different – you can’t do that to all of your guests!