Post # 1
Warning: rant ahead
I have a stupid teambuilding dinner this evening followed by an evening at a bar. Please note that I don’t even attend bars with my friends, nor do I ever drink at work.
I agreed to go to the dinner because I have to but I opted out of the bar. I have a 2 hour commute on a good day, I hate teambuilding, and I don’t want to go.
My colleagues say, “oh but you don’t have kids, so it’s okay.” What, exactly, is okay? I obviously have no right to be tired because nothing has come out of my vagina yet and I obviously have no reason to want to go home because I have no little monsters to raise yet. And how do you know I haven’t had 2 miscarriages and it is rude to talk about my lack of kids?
Obviously I don’t like spending time with my husband; that’s why I married him. Clearly I’d rather spend my evenings with my colleagues who I see all day and am paid to tolerate.
I love waking up at 5 and getting home at midnight…only to wake up at 5 again. My life clearly has less meaning and I have nothing else going on, like visiting sick relatives every.single.day.
I hate when people judge you and make assumptions. You have no idea what someone else is going through. I wish people would keep their comments to themselves, schedule work crap during work hours, and accept that no means no and you might actually have a reason for it.
Does this happen to anyone else?!
Post # 3
I haven’t had the child angle but I have had the age angle.. ‘Youre only young, you can stay up late and be okay tomorrow’… ‘ when I was your age I used to stay up till the early hours of the morning and still make it to work the next day’
Give. A. Shi..
I know my body and I know what sleep I need to get to be 100% tomorrow.
Post # 4
@Laurengrapes: I get the age angle too. Sorry, I am a 47 year old trapped in a 26 year old’s body. I need my sleep! I don’t care to party with middle aged people who seem to never want to go home.
Fuck my actual life.
Post # 5
@MrsPanda99: all the time. I don’t mind though because I DONT have kids and I feel holidays are more important to little ones who don’t know what it’s all about so in my mind is rather them the be home with their kids.
HOWEVER, this attitude has screwed me over in the past bc when I needed time off for family issues these people never offered to cover my shift. Bullllllllshit.
Also For some reason I thought you had told me or someone in another thread that you had 2 kids…must have been another panda name.
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: trying not to be rude, by why are you still working there? You obviously are unhappy in your job and dislike your colleagues (or at least are not happy and don’t enjoy spending time with them)
I hate to say it but perhaps they have noticed your attitude and that is why some team building is necessary.
I am not trying to be nasty, but it sounds like if you don’t want to go, you should put your energies into finding a new job.
Post # 7
@MrsPanda99: Don’t have kids, ever. They are so expensive and boring. Don’t do it! Haha. But, I’m serious, don’t.
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: Ditto! I hate the age stereotypical theories; I would pass up alcohol any day of the week for a cup of tea – hence with my hen do I was home by 12:30 and that included dropping someone else off and a half hour drive home!
Even at the post office yesterday age was mentioned – I was with my Mum and was posting a Christmas card to relatives abroad and she mentioned I was organised and I said I’d wrapped up all the presents and written all the cards already, and the PO lady said ‘you’ll get bored of that when you get older’ – I replied saying that I really enjoy wrapping etc and she said ‘well that’s because you’re only young and you’ll get fed up when youre older’
Arrghhhh! MAYBE I could just like doing it and it has no connection to my age….
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: hmmm, that is odd for sure. I can’t necessarily relate to not wanting to hang out with coworkers, because we’re all friends first, coworkers second. I actually really look forward to lunch and happy hours with them. But if I didn’t like them, I certainly wouldn’t feel obligated to participate in all non-work activities. I would probably go to a few though, just so I wasnt the “odd one out.” I would think of you never go, it may hurt your chances for raises and promotions, bonuses, etc? I dont understand the no kid thing though. That is rude and has nothing to do with why someone may/may not want to go out. It’s no one’s business.
Post # 10
@Laurenskii: I had 2 miscarriages. No kids though. Just a dog (and hopefully another dog soon). I don’t mind doing my share and staying late when I need to but like you said, it has to go both ways. We don’t have kids but we do have lives and sometimes there is stuff we need to deal with.
@Twizbe: Um, this is a new job and the event was scheduled before I started. Getting drunk isn’t teambuilding. I’ve planned teambuilding events in previous roles…during work hours and actually, you know, teambuilding.
Also, I obviously don’t say this to them. I am going to the dinner and I acted perfectly happy about it. This is anonymous on the Internet – I guess I can’t even say anything here! And I do like my JOB…I just like to go home too.
Post # 11
@QueenOfSerendip: I’m going to the first half. I’m not spending all night in a bar though, that’s for sure. I keep my work and personal life separate. I will always be friendly to colleagues but it is rare they will ever be my friends. By friends I mean people I see outside of work and would continue to see even if I left the company.
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: I agree with you. I like my co-workers. But I also like to go home during my off time. I don’t need to go out with them after work when I see them all day (or night in my case).
Post # 13
@taraelisabeth: People always say after I’ve been married for longer then I will “get it.” I sincerely hope my marriage doesn’t come to a point where I’d rather stay at work than go home. That is something I am entirely happy not “to get.”
To each their own. I like my job, some folks are taking my rant too seriously. Rants online are not actually said to the people in question…at least mine aren’t. I understand I can’t avoid this mandatory social crap and I have to act happy (trust me, I do). But I can complain online about it!
Post # 14
Yeah it was an annoying thing to say but it’s a one night thing. I’d suck it up and go even if I didn’t want to. If it was a weekly thing I’d opt out frequently.
Post # 15
@MrsWBS: It is weekly 🙁 I am still going though. I will always go. It’s part of my job, I suppose. I just wish it wasn’t 😛
Post # 16
@MrsPanda99: I hate this, i work in a bar and the people with kids who only work part time have decided they don’t want to work xmas eve, xmas and boxing day which is fair enough they have a young family,but then they have decided they don’t want to work new years eve which leaves all of us without kids to work both which is massively unfair.
And when i mentioned it i just got well i don’t have a sitter….i’m sorry aren’t you married so the child has a father who could look after them after all you have no sitter so you won’t be going out.
But acording to them i don’t have kids so i don’t understand….. i actually can’t have children so this just makes me feel fantastic.